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| Tue, 08-22-2006 - 5:47pm |
hi..im new to this message board..but heres my story:
Im 23 years old and I left my husband of 2 1/2 years on 7/31/06; he was emotionally and verbally abusive and I finally came to my senses and left. I had threatened to leave him before, but when I did he threatened suicide and so I stayed. He went out of town and that is when I decided to leave him and move out. I am financially stable and have been supporting myself since I was 16. He never helped me financially, so I am not dependant on him in any shape or form. When I told him that I wanted a divorce he pleaded and begged for me to come home, but I stood my ground and told him no. We dont have any children or any joint assets, and other than my personal belongings I dont want anything from him.I am extremely lost and confused because I dont know how I should be feeling. I have no emotion whatsoever and I just want to be done and over with. But there are times when I worry about how he is feeling and if he had dinner and if he is lonely. Is any of this normal? Is there even a norm? Any advice or support would be appreciated. Thanks! =)

Hi there!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
This kind of detachment is good. It's protecting you, and it means that you are moving on emotionally. I'm so glad that you got out!
I just wanted to say that if he calls or shows up doing the suicide thing again, don't play the game. Call the police and report that he has threatened to kill himself and where he is. They'll go check on him.
Thanks for listening..
i agree with the other posters. what you are feeling is normal (i dont' know if there is a norm or not, but we all go thru this, so i expect it is normal....). for better or for worse this was your husband, you got used to being together, feeling concern for him, i think it would be NOT normal if you would suddenly NOT care about him in some way. OTOH --- when you say you feel no emotions - that is good in a way, because sometimes turning your emotions off is a way to protect yourself.
try to move the focus from him to you. start doing things for yourself, take care of yourself - make sure you are eating properly, make sure you exercise and take time to meditate or find some form of relaxing . force yourself if you have to - but it does work.