what to do with old wedding ring?

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what to do with old wedding ring?
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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 7:51pm

After the divorce, I have a dilemma! What should I do with my wedding ring set? Sell it on ebay. Exchange it with another ring (i've heard that a lot of jewelry places do that). Or maybe set it on another ring. I still have the ring hidden so my bf won't see it.

My ex-husband kept the gown accidentally. I told him to put the dress in my truck but he took it with him without knowing it until he got to his new place. I said keep it since it has a big stain in the front (i don't know how that happened-been in the closet for a while) and it didnt cost that much. My aunt paid for it actually.

What do you think ladies ? Anybody tried selling jewelry on ebay?

let me know !

thanks,
kathe

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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 9:01pm
I considered selling mine on ebay to cover legal fees! I burned my wedding dress though...can't wait to get those pictures developed! LOL.
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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 9:58pm

I pondered this for a long time..a co-worker of mine that has divorced parents said I should keep it for my daughters..but I took a long time to pick out that ring!...I had it designed for me..and during the marriage I lost the centre stone & he replaced it with a bigger better one!
I didnt even consider selling it..dont know why though..

so after 1-1/2 yrs I took them into a jeweller to have them reset..the setting I used (one that would fit the same diamonds..I couldnt afford any more) was a engagement setting..but the modified it for me...and I had it put in white gold (my other was in yellow gold which was his choice)...

it turned out beautiful!!

have you ever seen the ads for the woman's "right-hand" ring...that is what I am calling it..something I designed and bought for myself...

its funny it was a symbol a hurtful time..but now when I wear it i feel kinda empowered..

sorry this is so long..but as you can see I'm a little excited about it!

:)

Annette

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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 10:38pm

I feel empowered... after I get past ticked!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 12:08am
hmmm..both our ex's bought larger diamonds right before they left...guilt? I wonder
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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 12:44am

thanks for all the reply. my ex didnt buy me a larger stone. it took him 2-3 yrs to pay for my ring though. He didn't even tell me how much it cost him, but I found out anyways. He didnt have enough money for it so his boss put it in her cc and he paid for it every month. I thought about giving it to my mom as a replacement for her wedding band (but she likes the one my dad gave her) so she took the diamond earring that my ex bought me.

I called Robbins Bros and asked if I can exchange it for something else and they said just come by and they will look at it. It's a wedding engagement set ring so it has a big stone in the middle and surrounded with little ones....maybe i'll reset and make the little stones into earrings.

lot of options....i still have my veil....which actually cost more than my wedding dress hehehe.....

thanks,
kathe

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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 8:57am

I'm positive that by that point my then-husband was feeling pretty uneasy about my next move.


The funny thing is that when I actually saw an attorney and had paperwork in tow, his comment was, "I never thought you'd actually do it."


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 11:43am

if you dont mind me asking, (I'm new to this board and haven't explored all the topics yet) did he cheat on you? how di you find out? Were you married for a long time?

It's always sad to see a couple divorced and when I was younger I said to myself that if I ever get married I won't be divorced like other couple that I know. Oh well, I was wrong. I'm just glad that there's no kids involved in my situation. But it was better off divorce than putting a show for everybody.

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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 12:50pm

Hi... yes, he did cheat on me... as well as made me feel cheap and degraded.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 2:46pm

I have several rings from my ended marriage.

1. Engagement ring in a Tiffany setting. The 3/4 carat diamond is his family's diamond. It had belonged to his grandmother and then his mother. Now it will go to either our daughter or our son's future fiance. The diamond is gorgeous in a brilliant cut.

2. Wedding bands cast in silver. My dear friend made our wedding bands in silver because it was all we could afford at the time. They are very very cool and have immense sentimental value to me because I'm still close with the person who made them. When DD turns 16 she'll get my silver band, when DS turns 16 he'll get his dad's silver one.

3. Wedding bands cast in white gold. When I was pregnant with DD, my fingers swelled up and I had to take my rings off. At the same time, my X's silver band broke, so I took them both to a jeweler near my work and had them recast into white gold. They look identical to the silver ones but are much heavier due to the metal. The kids will each get one when they're 18 or 21 depending.

4. Ten year anniversary band. It's a beauty but I hate it! I picked it out and it's very simple in white gold with a diamond channel over the top. It's so sparkly! I hate it because just a few months after giving it to me, my ex admitted he was "in love" with someone else. When I was upset, he yelled at me, "Why are you so upset, you got the diamond ring you wanted!". Oh yea, I stayed married to him for ten years so I could get an anniversary band - lol! I want to sell this ring or do something with it too. It pissed me off just to look at it after that.

I should say I'm very experienced at selling on Ebay, but I don't feel comfortable selling fine jewelry there. I just can't get a good picture of it and the value is too high for me.

Melanie

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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 5:48pm

Oh that reminded me of the other rings that I have (but I bought them though).

1 golden band from my mom (my dad gave her that ring but won't fit her anymore so she gave it to me). I use it when I didn't feel like weing the diamond that snags on my dress and cuts me once in a while.

another golden band that I bought to match his, since he had a golden band for our wedding.

I always made fun of him not having any ring before we got married and he got away with lots after the divorce. (Not to mention more shoes and clothes.)

thanks for your reply. think Ill just reset it- if I can a find a design that I like.

kathe

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