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| Tue, 05-23-2006 - 8:42am |
Thank you for the support that I have received in my posting about my divorce. I have a HUGE dilemma! Long story short, Thursday of this week I go to court with dh regarding the final hearing for our divorce. He does not know the sex of the baby that I had this past February 2006. He keep pressing for information, whether it is a boy or girl. What their name is,etc. My attorney had initially told me not to contact my husband to tell him that the baby was born. Last Monday, I went into go over paperwork with my attorney. He mentioned that due to my not telling my husband about the baby the judge may question my reasoning for not contacting my husband on the birth of our son. I have all along wanted to tell my husband. I feel that even though he has issues, he should know about his son.
What do you do? Is there anyone in my situation or has anyone been in this situation?
TIA
Christy











Hey Christy... plain and simple... the reason you did not tell your husband is because your attorney advised you not to.... and when your attorney said that the "judge might question your reasoning" I'd have said.... "my reasoning was because you advised me not to have contact with him!"
I'm sorry.... but unless there is abuse involved that is documented.... in my opinion, keeping daddies out of the loop is a big no-no in the eyes of the court... especially when they are asking to be involved.
So, I would talk to your attorney further before you do talk to your husband.... but definitely, the air needs to be cleared to pave the way for him to help you co-parent.... especially if he's half willing.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
THank you for your thoughts!
I contacted dh regarding baby, tried to clear the air before Thursday. He said that if I do not let him see the baby this weekend, he will call the cops on me!!!
I e-mailed him (politely) and told him that this is why we are going to court on Thursday to determine visitation. He did not need to threaten me and he needed to help me, he has paid nothing and was never there for any of the past nine months.
Christy
Hey there... I just wanted to add that when you communicate with him, remind him that this whole "court" thing gives you BOTH... and your child "rights insurance" ;-) so to speak.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I agree...definitely a good idea to make sure the judge knows she was acting under the advice of her legal counsel.
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