What do you do about the blues?
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What do you do about the blues?
| Fri, 04-04-2008 - 5:35pm |
I'm actually okay with the whole dissolution thing.
| Fri, 04-04-2008 - 5:35pm |
I'm actually okay with the whole dissolution thing.
I completely sympathize with how you're feeling.
Jenn ~~~ mom to Ashley & Elliott ~~~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Don't be afraid to allow friends to help you. I remember once when I was going through what you are, a good friend of mine called me at midnight, knowing I would be up obsessing, and read poetry to me for an hour. He basically talked me off of my ledge without directly addressing the problems. Just someone else's voice to listen to, rather than the voice in my head, made all of the difference. I remember laying on the floor in my kitchen staring up at the ceiling in the dark, and
Cat
Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7
I have a DD to focus my attention on, so the blues weren't too bad.
It's okay to jump...you have wings!
To move forward...you have to stop looking back.
Yep, I share my blues here. It helps. Most folks who haven't been through this just don't know how hard it is and how long it takes to go through this process -- my stbx mentioned divorce 18 months ago and moved out 9 months ago and I turn new corners of loss and stress and sadness and anger every day. I cope and I move forward and through those moments, but they haven't ended--may never.
I am also getting a bit tired of the "think positive" and it will be positive mantra. Divorce, especially if it involves children, just plain sucks. Good may come and will come, but denying the "dark night of the soul" is just that -- denial, not the power of positive thinking.
So, blessings to you and all of us who are travelling this difficult path. May we receive the support and compassion we need to rise from the ashes. And may all of us be patient with our grieving and that of others.
M
Hello buckeyegold,