What do you do about the blues?

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What do you do about the blues?
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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 5:35pm

I'm actually okay with the whole dissolution thing.

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 9:23pm

I completely sympathize with how you're feeling.

Jenn ~~~ mom to Ashley & Elliott ~~~

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 12:47pm
Ya know, pity parties are just part of it.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 1:45pm
You gotta forget about the past and about other people and start to set goals for yourself -- and it's good to be alone for a while too.
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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 9:50pm
Thats what is good about this board. You can share all those feelings. I am a little blue at the moment. It is such a great Spring night and I was feeling really good. I came home and suddenly found myself crying here at the computer. I guess I am lonely too or feeling sorry for myself. I think being around other people really helps. Kind of alone here. I talked with all my kids on the phone today. That always a good thing. Maybe I need exercise or some kind of medication. I really feel down now and tired too. Maybe just knowing that the bad stuff in my life is getting in the way of the good. And it will all still be there tomorrow. I need to work on changes.
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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 2:53pm

Don't be afraid to allow friends to help you. I remember once when I was going through what you are, a good friend of mine called me at midnight, knowing I would be up obsessing, and read poetry to me for an hour. He basically talked me off of my ledge without directly addressing the problems. Just someone else's voice to listen to, rather than the voice in my head, made all of the difference. I remember laying on the floor in my kitchen staring up at the ceiling in the dark, and

Cat 

Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7

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Registered: 03-24-2008
Wed, 04-09-2008 - 11:38pm

I have a DD to focus my attention on, so the blues weren't too bad.

It's okay to jump...you have wings! 

To move forward...you have to stop looking back.

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Sat, 04-12-2008 - 9:13pm

Yep, I share my blues here. It helps. Most folks who haven't been through this just don't know how hard it is and how long it takes to go through this process -- my stbx mentioned divorce 18 months ago and moved out 9 months ago and I turn new corners of loss and stress and sadness and anger every day. I cope and I move forward and through those moments, but they haven't ended--may never.

I am also getting a bit tired of the "think positive" and it will be positive mantra. Divorce, especially if it involves children, just plain sucks. Good may come and will come, but denying the "dark night of the soul" is just that -- denial, not the power of positive thinking.

So, blessings to you and all of us who are travelling this difficult path. May we receive the support and compassion we need to rise from the ashes. And may all of us be patient with our grieving and that of others.

M

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Sat, 04-12-2008 - 10:16pm

Hello buckeyegold,