What do you do for yourselves

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2004
What do you do for yourselves
6
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 3:09pm

I'm finding that I have time on my own, yet I am alone alot not sure of what I should be doing. I am trying to pursue something that gives me an identity outside the house. This place has been part of me for 13 years and I'm ready to distance myself from here.

What kinds of new and exciting things are you doing? I'm thinking of taking some kind of class just for fun. I'm going on a white water rafting trip in two weeks and have started running races again.

What is everyone else doing to have some sort of new identity?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 3:14pm
After I separated I started exercising and going to the library every couple weeks. I also changed jobs to one that has a better pace, made my place feel like my home and generally taking better care of myself.

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 4:05pm
I enjoyed my "free time" to get caught up on my reading.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

Avatar for susieyippin
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 4:29pm

I'm listening to a lot of classical music (Vivaldi kicks major tail! I love him!!), and working on my business. Also re-connecting with a hobby I've had for a while, genealogy.

Susie

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2005
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 11:28pm
White water rafting sound like a blast! I too am trying to find things to do on the weekends that I am kid free. I find myself spinning circles and not really getting anywhere. I am going to go hiking but so far, I have really taken the time to redo things in my home with painting and decorating. It is nice to be able to do things the way I like them!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2004
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 11:12am

With sharing custody of the girls now instead of me doing absolutely everything, I DO have lots more time on my hands, even though I am now working full time. I have a whole week in a row to do exactly what I want. I'm in TWO book clubs, I'm spending lots of time tending my plant babies, I'm doing some new hobbies--beading and I'm trying to re-teach myself how to crochet. It's odd how much time I have now since the D--I guess I underestimated how demanding the ex was, as well as underestimated how totally paralyzed with sadness I was. When you're not constantly depressed, you have more energy and enthusiasm. Plus my kids are getting older now and doing more for themselves.

I'm enjoying the extra time for me. Great benefit of singleness.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 11:52am

I find myself spinning my wheels as well. I have busied myself with projects around the house, but it costs $$$$$$. I've bought wallpaper and paint, new curtains, linens and furniture. I still have to get the wallpaper up and some painting done, but it's been so hot lately.

I've been wanting to do stuff away from the house though, because so much of my identity is tied to this house. I love it when I meet people and they identify me for something else besides being someone's mom or wife. I've had people approach me about my running and I get alot of praise for that, so I guess I'm not that dull.