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WHAT is the first step??
| Mon, 11-06-2006 - 3:24pm |
Husband and I had a huge fight this weekend. I was in the hospital for 3 days with a severe bladder infection. I drove myself to the ER and he never called, never came by, nothing. He said he had a job to do (church) and so my mom came in town and drove me home and got me settled in. I still have some recovery to do. I want out. This is enough. I have NO money, so I am not sure where to start. I have no family here-my parents live 3 hours away. He came in and changed clothes and went back out and has not returned but I am sure he will this evening. There are no "how are you feeling?" He left this morning going to another hospital because a church member was having surgery. This is not right. He is so resentful of me if I am sick or upset or ANYTHING that takes him away from church. I found a house to rent but the problem is that it is only 2 miles from my house where I live now. I am not sure I want to be that close. What do I do?? I have to go back to the doctor tomorrow, I wonder if I should see an attorney first?? I am so scared and mad and upset and depressed. I just feel so controlled by him. He yells at me and the kids and never has anything good to say to any of us. He was mad at my oldest because he stayed home with me during church and didn't come. WHAT do I do?? WHY do I still feel the need to protect his reputation??

WHY do I still feel the need to protect his reputation??
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
Pwinn,
It sounds like your husband has forgotten his No. 1 responsibility: you. You do not say how long you've been married or if his lack of response to your crisis is typical. If this has happened before, then I agree you are in an abusive relationship and need to seek help to get out. If this is a first occurence, I'd encourage you to still seek assistance, and also try to get some help for your husband. It sounds like he's just shut down when it comes to his family and he needs help getting his priorities in order.
Post here as much as you like.
Good luck.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
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Wisdom,
This is in fact an abusive relationship that has been on going for years.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
The man that you live with took and oath, made a covenant and a vow to represent and display the character of God.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
If the house a mile away from
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***