What Happened?? I hope this is a good sign

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Registered: 10-12-2013
What Happened?? I hope this is a good sign
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Sat, 10-12-2013 - 11:13pm

Hello All,

I have not been on this board for a very long time.  I had a little time this evening and thought I would hop on and see if anyone could use some words of encouragement, like people used to do for me in my time of need.  Well, it looks like there isn't much going on, which I'm going to take as a good sign.  Laughing  I hope it means people have the support they need during some awful emotions they may be experiencing.  

I went through a divorced a little over a year ago after a 25 year marriage and this board saved me many nights when I could not sleep.  A lot of people gave me the support I needed and I am grateful.  I want to be here for anyone that may need someone to listen to them.  So, if there is anyone out there in need, just let me know.

 

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Registered: 10-19-2013
Sat, 10-19-2013 - 9:24pm

I need some advice on how to get through a divorce/separation. My husband moved me from one state to live with his family while on deployment so we could save money. Well I left my job and my friends for this move and two months into the deployment he sends me am email telling me he wants a divorce. His excuse was its not fair for me if he isn't 100% in our relationship. However, he said a month ago he was fine and everything is okay. I noticed something was off because he wasnt calling me and making up excuses to not skype or call. so, Basically now I live with his family, have no job and barely any support system here. i cannot afford to move back to where i used to live because its too expensive. i feel so alone and honestly the pain is unbearable. I have hardly no family and was only really close to his. My family has a history of depression and suicide so I have been on medication for years. However, I feel like nothing can help me right now. Sometimes I can barely get out of bed or eat. He acts like I am nothing and that he could just throw me away so easily. We have only been married for two years!??! I just need help. I want to get through this but I am not sure i can. 

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sun, 10-20-2013 - 12:03am

Ashley, you need to repost this by starting your own thread.  You replied to someone else's thread, and those who have read her post aren't going to read it again......and they won't see yours.  As for your problem(s) I'm kind of confused.  You say there is a history of depression and suicide in your family.  What has that got to do with you? Do YOU have a history of depression?  What kind of medication are you on?  Was it prescribed for you by a doctor, or are you self medicating?  Many anti-depressants will leave you helpless and unable to function, so maybe you should get off whatever you're taking.  It doesn't matter how HE acts, what matters is that you value yourself and you know that you're not "nothing".  There are lots of ways to travel.  You didn't say how far you are from home, but have you looked at bus fares?  They're not as expensive as flying!  Have you looked into getting some help from organizations that help women who are in need?  Do you get along with his family that you're living with?  Have you asked them to lend you the fare to get home?  Have you checked with your own family to see if they can get you a ticket home?  When you get home you can get a job and pay them back.  It sounds like you're on your own now, and there is no reason you can't get yourself motivated to do what you have to do.  Go get a job at a fast food place, and earn the money to get home.  If you want it, then you have to get it for yourself. 

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Registered: 09-30-2012
Sun, 12-01-2013 - 11:22pm

I have come here on and off, to different boards, for help. I decided to come back here after I had come here last year for advice. Sad to see how quiet it is. Or, maybe it is a good thing.  Over the past 5 years some of these boards have kept me from going crazy.  Maybe things ebb and flow, and this is a low period.  

Just thought I would stop by to say hello in any case.