What, if anything, will DFS do?

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What, if anything, will DFS do?
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 3:10pm
Apparently, Clayton wasn't wiped properly this morning (although I don't know how ex-h is defining this) but "this isn't the first instance". And he picked him up from school early, and they hadn't changed him (because they always write his name on the diaper) and so now he KNOWS it isn't them that's doing this and is indeed me, and he told me he has evidence and is calling DFS today. He also told me that I'm lucky that they don't call because they're obligated to report neglect. Now, I don't think he'll actually do this, but if he does, what kind of reprucussions might I be facing? I know he'll insist that my Mom stop watching him (she watches him while he's not in school). And he got mad and hung up when i told him I couldn't discuss this right now because I was in the middle of something. Oh, and he got pissed off that I didn't tell them that he was picking him up early. I didn't know he was picking him up early, I didn't have a problem with it, but I didn't know and he accused me of being "too lazy to pick up a god damned phone". yeah, I politely told him I couldn't talk then either and hung up the phone.
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 5:23pm

I think your Ex is just trying to get a rise out of you. If social services had to go out and see every child that wasn't properly wiped, they'd need an army of a million case workers! Unless he can come up with some other serious allegations, I wouldn't even worry about it. Even if they do come out, if you are a decent parent, I am sure you have nothing to fear.


Also, it's not up to social services to police who is watching your child, unless that caregiver was abusive or neglectful.






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Edited 5/9/2006 5:24 pm ET by cl-justiceandtruth
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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 10:43pm

I agree with Christine.... he's blowing a lot more smoke than you'll ever see from DFS/DCS.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 2:05am
The only thing that I would add to the good advice so far is to know that CSD (as it's known here, but has about a thousand different names lol) usually takes a report from an x with a BIG grain of salt. Where I am they don't even bother to check it out, just write it down, if it's something like you are describing. But do NOT go off the wall when they ask about x!! YOU need to be the better person here. You need to appear in charge and not out of control.

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:19am

I agree.... in my EX SO's EX wife's world (wow... now that was a mouthful!) they were continually threatening to call DCS (as it's called here ;-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~