What more does he want????

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Registered: 03-11-2004
What more does he want????
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 2:19pm
My ex got everything he wanted...he had a 21 year old gf so i took the hint and left after months of "trying to work it out". He have a duaghter who is about to turn 2 and shes the most amazing little person to ever walk this earth (im biased shes my everything). We went to court and dealt with custody, support all while his new FIANCE sat across from me smacking her gum and smirking at me. I got a lawyer and handled it in a grown up way. I addressed his drug use and requested testing (to which he agreed). He wanted to see her every weekend until his work schedule changes in april so i agreed...we signed it, the judge signed it. She i had her first overnight that just about killed me. I didnt sleep all night, sobbed...puked...sobbed some more. I picked her up the next morning to come home to a very upset little tummy and total exhaustion on her part. She slept for 4 hours and we made it through (with 2 baths in one day - again a verrry upset tummy!) So this past weekend was superbowl and i expected a call and rightly so got it friday before she even made it there to cancel. Truth be told I was relieved, i couldnt bear being away from her again. I get a phone call today to say he would take her thursday...no wait friday...no wait saturday yeah definitely saturday to which i agreed since it was the original arrangement anyway...only to get a call a 1/2 hour later that the unemployed low life wants to change her day to every thursday and i can bring her on my way to work and pick her up friday on my way home. No change in daycare costs and she'll be with him for 2 days and not getting the stimulation or structure that she gets in daycare. The icing on the cake is he asked me to call the court and postpone his drug test....Am I missing something here???? Anyone have any advice on how to deal with my anger?? He just pushes and pushes and pushes. He also threw in that "yeah the giants won the superbowl...see he left me and they won...always knew i was back luck...hhahaha"...when does it stop??? I really cant take much more.
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Registered: 11-29-2007
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 2:33pm

He didnt get everything! You got everything! The best thing that man can and has and will accomplish in his lifetime is your daughter! Thats the best..and you have her thank god :) He is having a relationship with a 21 yr old..how old is he? and why or why would she be at the hearing? My god..what class!


Girl..the best of him is what loves you very much and you kiss goodnight every evening.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 3:10pm

Thank you...I swear the worst part of everything is for 5 years i lost me. If it wasnt for my duaghter he would have just kept pulling me down. I feel better than I have in years and I know its like you said "hes her problem now" Hes 43 by the way...he said he felt old and she made him feel good again...gotta laugh at that one cause if he couldnt make a 35 year old "feel good" he sure as hell cant make a 21 year old feel any better. Im just so tired of the jabs and the pulling of our daughter. Its all at his convenience and im over it.