WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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Registered: 10-22-2007
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 6:44pm

I have never posted a blog before but I am at wit's end and I would like to some feedback.


I have been married a little over 3 years. My husband and I separated and have been separated off and on about a year and a half. We are nearing the end of our divorce and he drops this bomb on me that he has a new girlfriend that he started dating 2 weeks ago and he's moving in with her. The problem comes in with our little boy. He is 2 years old and I don't want want my son around his new girlfriend. I don't want my son raised in an environment where he constantly sees people come in and out of our lives. Personally, I wouldn't introduce my son to anyone until I felt comfortable with them and planned on being with that particular person for a while dare I say marry... My husband and I had discussions about this where he was very adamant about NOT having anyone around him. Yet, he turns around and does it. I'm supposed to be okay with this. What makes matters worse is that he didn't take care of home like he was supposed to when we were together yet he can move in to her place and pay her rent, spend time with her daughter who is around the same age as my son. I don't get it. I don't like it. I am hurt by his actions. I am upset that he would do something like this to me and my son.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 7:30pm

I can't explain your Hs actions, but I can tell you that he is part of a large club.

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:59pm
You have every right to be upset. 2 weeks, seriously? His actions are so inconsiderate, not just to you but to your son as well. Although I feel blessed in my situation, w/ my divorce, that I do not have kids, any responsible parent should know that the child should not be involved in any way w/ the "new" woman for months. How can he possibly think of confusing your son? Fight for custody. His actions are laying the groundwork for your son's future. Think of how confused your son will be, especially when this 2 week relationship that is thrusting into moving in together ends. It will most likely. Your feelings of hurt are just, and your concern for your son is right as well. Good luck and continue to watch out for your son, you sound like a great parent!!!