what to think

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Registered: 02-23-2007
what to think
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Sun, 07-29-2007 - 11:53pm

There was a family celebration this weekend where both stbx and I had to be there. He spent much of the day sort of following me. I felt like everytime I turned around he was right there. Maybe it was because there were so many people there who didn't really want to talk with him.

It just seems that he keeps wanting us to spend time together. At first I thought it was because he wanted to limit the little time he spends alone with the children. But at this party they were totally occupied, so why seek me out? Just when I think I get my head around his behavior, he starts acting weird in a whole new way.

Of course this is also the weekend that he said he wanted to have this "big talk" and explain everything to me (why after 13 years together he just ups and leaves with no indication he was unhappy, all about the affair - information I could do without, and who knows what else). The talk never happened. I didn't bring it up because frankly I don't know that I would believe it and I wasn't interested in a bunch of rationalizations or him blaming me. He didn't bring it up - who knows why.

I wish I could stop caring but after all these years, sometimes I have trouble just turning that off. Hopefully this habit will break in time.

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Registered: 07-15-2007
Mon, 07-30-2007 - 12:10pm
Whatever you do don't give in. Keep straight and don't look back.
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Registered: 07-24-2007
Mon, 07-30-2007 - 1:03pm
Oh Girl-I can totallly relate. My ex has since been remarried (3mos. after divorce) and baby due anyday(preg. before we were divorced) and he still feels the need to follow me at our child's sporting events, the text messages never stop and the inquiry into what my plans are, are constantly being asked.
Keep focused and don't look back-no regrets here. (it is hard im not going to lie but in a weird way entertaining and fulfilling?)