What was your X;s/STBX's....
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| Sat, 04-08-2006 - 10:11am |
major complaint or complaints about you? Before I moved out of the house, I asked my STBX what was so bad about me.....what should I have changed? His answer:
"You didn't go out with friends enough."
Oooo...that made my blood boil. No, I didn't have the social life of the century, like he did, but SOMEONE had to be home to raise our DS! I think it was just his way of projecting on to me that his going out 6/7 days a week was "ok." Wouldn't most men LIKE to have a committed wife who actually wanted to be home with their family?? I don't know too many men that would say, "Gee, I'd like it if my wife was out partying more!"
The other complaints were that I nagged too much, and of course, didn't want sex enough.
Just needed to vent this morning and see what anyone else had to say!

What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Hopefully thanksgiving and easter meals tasted good. LOL. :)
Really, though, one of the biggest things that I cherish in life is my individuality. It's something that my parents instilled from very early on - that no two people are exactly alike. And STBX would always tell me that I was perfect just how I was, until Mommy came to visit, and then he went back to his "I wish you were more like her" attitude, and would stay there for weeks.
Last year, on Columbus Day, I invited both sets of parents down for Thanksgiving dinner. (His family is Canadian). When his mother showed up, I was headed upstairs with six bags of groceries. She actually pouted because I couldn't give her the "proverbial mother in law hug." Then, when my mother and I were in my very small kitchen, that only has enough room for two people, she came in and said that she was going to teach me how to cook, since I had apparently never been taught how. I took real offense to that - my mother had been teaching me since I was 5 years old, and Linda knew that. She just wanted to be mean. Later, at the table, she actually got up, got a second plate, and put all the "icky" food onto another plate and gave it to my dog, because "thats what it tastes like"!!!!!!!!!! What got me the most about the entire day is that she put her hand on STBXs upper thigh (way upper) during dinner, and was massaging. I was about to poke her hand with my fork. He had absolutely no problem with what she was doing - he said it was normal.
Since then, we have had a fight at least once a month, always about his mother. I truly do understand what you said about men marrying their mothers, but this was my first marraige, and I purposely left blinders on. From now on, though.............
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