What we loved/what we didn't love....
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What we loved/what we didn't love....
| Tue, 04-04-2006 - 2:41am |
Sometimes, I feel very angry when I think about STBX. I decided to help me move past some of my anger toward him, I would think of two things I loved about him. THEN...I would think of two things I couldn't stand! For some strange reason, doing this had kind of help balance me....weird, I know.
I loved....
1. The fact he used to carry all the heavy items we bought from Costco into the house!
2. The way he could fix any mechanical/electrical item under the sun.
I DIDN'T love...
1. The fact that he never wanted to come home.
2. His excessive overspending.
Anyone else?

What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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I'm glad you posted all of those good things, Brenda. When
I loved..... ummmmm lemme come back to that part!
I didn't love..... the constant need for attention and affection.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hmm...this is a hard one as I'm in the middle of a separation and impending divorce. Hubby thinks we still have a chance, even though HE bought a house and instigated this whole think. (He didn't deal with some issues we had, and now he realizes what he is losing).
Anyway, here goes:
Loving
* Good provider and hard worker
* Handy around the house
* Good sense of humor
* Wasn't into porn or other women
* Only drank socially
* Often let me choose the vacation, restaurant (and even our last dream house)
* Ate what I fixed and didn't complain when I didn't cook
* Didn't complain if the house was messy
* Always said I was pretty and smart (and used to say how he loved me)
* Shares money
* Good father when he tries (better now that he has moved out)
Unloving
* Ignored me and the kids for hours while he played online games
* Blamed me for ALL of our marital problems
* Yelled he didn't love me and said he was miserable (which he amended two months later)
* Let me do most of the housework, cleaning, and child care
* Didn't actively listen or show attention
* Played "mental ping-pong" (want a divorce/don't want one...read my mind)
* Angry, mean words
* Moved us into our "dream house" only to announce he wanted out two months later
* Bought a house and moved out because I "told him to" (yeah, after he said he didn't want to work on the marriage, and said he was miserable)
* Asked me to twice seek out divorce information ("if you won't, I will!")
* But mostly, just the mental games which have made my self-esteem plummet and my anger explode. Now he wants to try again, when it's basically too late!
Sorry this is so long. It was rather cathartic, and helped me see that he has good points too.
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