What would you do

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Registered: 04-20-2007
What would you do
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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 3:17am
Alright so here is my story: IN september of last year I deployed to Iraq, and I thought that my marriage was ok. Come to find out that my wife (who has posted on here) has been very unhappy all the years that we have been together. Back in Jan she started having an affair with someone else in the military. This continued all the way up until the begining of this month. Now that it is "over with him" I still dont belive it. She is now saying that she wants to work on our marriage and get things right. But, I have found out that this other guy and his wife are getting a divorce and that she is leaving at the end of June. I dont even return from here until september. I talked with his wife and she has told that she talked to my wife and was told that if her husband wanted to come back to her (my wife)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 9:51am

crazywithouther...

First...Pianoguy doesn't believe that ANYBODY reading your thread is qualified to make this decision for you!

All of us can offer suggestions as to why you should or shouldn't give your wife another chance...but the ultimate choice HAS TO BE YOURS!

Maybe you should honestly ask yourself if you'd be happier be a single parent? Your decision isn't just an issue of your wife's fidelity or infidelity. You're putting your 4 children in the middle of a situation that will (ultimately) make them choose one parent over the other!

Your off-spring had nothing to do with your wife's "temporary affair!" But you can bet that they'll have to deal with the possibility of her cheating again...NO MATTER WHERE ALL OF YOU DECIDE TO LIVE!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 2:20pm
You already know she's a liar because affairs don't normally happen in the open with no lies attached. No matter what your heart is telling you, take what your head is telling you and run with it.


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