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What would you do?
| Thu, 05-17-2007 - 12:37pm |
I need some advice...my ex and i had an agreement (verbal) he was supposed to have the kids this weekend and next (for memorial day) his comment to me was...he didn't want to be "bogged" down two weekends in a row (whatever)...so in lieu of that we agreed he would have them wednesday and thursday this week and 2 days during the week next week. Now, at the last minute he tells me he's taking the kids this weekend....this is clearly disrespectful to me and our plans for the weekend. What would you do...let him do this...or say NO, we had a prior agreement. Not sure what is best.

I would stick to the orginal plan. You and the kids have the right to believe that plans, once made, will happen (barring some unforeseen and unavoidable circumstance). It is disrespectful to believe that the plans you and the children have made can be changed at his whim. There is a big difference between telling you he is taking them for the weekend and asking you if you can alter the agreed upon visitation/custody schedule.
I would say simply that you have already made plans for this weekend due to the previous arrangements regarding who the children would be with and that you are not going to change those plans.
You can't control how he'll react or his behaviour. If you are consistent and fair, the rest of it is his problem.
Good luck.
"I'm sorry, but we already made other plans."
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~