What would you like to see happen to....
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What would you like to see happen to....
| Sat, 09-16-2006 - 8:41am |
...your STBX/EX? I know many of us have wild fantasies about what we would like to happen to them! So let us know here.
OK, I'll go first. Honestly? I'd just like him to find a girlfriend and be happy. He is so bitter over the divorce and still says terrible things to me. If he were happier in his life, I feel we could co-parent better and there would be so much less drama.

Hugs, Brenda
This is what happened to my x husband, hes has had 4 girlfriends after me and the youngest 15 years younger then him and he whined during this time that he couldn't be loved. *sigh* He met a woman 1½ years ago and they are now
The angry, bitter side of me (which I'm finding I have less and less of) wants him to fail. He sacrificed his family to pursue a dream and part of me wants him to fail, and see what an idiot he was.
The real, not bitter, me wants him to pull his act together and be a responsible adult.
my first ex and my DS's bio-dad: i wish he would get his act together, and become a parent. DS is 20 , but is still very hurt by his dad abandoning him.
my second ex ---- gosh, i really really really don't care. the little witch in me would like to see hm in pain, and suffer ----- but honestly, i really don't care.
After getting an idea of what's going on in my ex's head when we were talking in the psychologist's office last Monday - I would really like to see my ex find it within himself to put his own problems with me aside and work with me on helping our son.
I wish my ex would grow up - and his wife-to-be, too! I wish they'd stop demonizing me and see me instead as the mother of our ds who really just wants what is best for ds.
But as long as they view my communications regarding ds as 'an intrusion' into their relationship, it probably ain't gonna happen.
I wish my ex would really work on himself and deal with his addiction. But I believe at this point he has more life lessons and likely will need to experience more pain before he'll be ready to do that.
I hope for the best - maybe his marriage next week will turn out OK. If he is a happy person, then he'll be a better Daddy.
This post includes info that could be a trigger for anyone who has suffered sexual abuse.
I'd love to see him in therapy and on meds and, perhaps, hospitalized for a period of time. The man has some serious mental health issues. IMO and that of some of my children's mental health pros, he is likely to have a serious personality disorder. I think he may also have schizophrenia and perhaps MPD. The man has been psychotic, among other things. He can't allow himself to do this. He would have to face up to and talk about the ritual sexual abuse he, his sibling, and his cousins suffered at the hand of his grandfather. The man would get a group of them together to spend the night, put them to work on one another as he dictated, then finish himself off, usually with one of the boys. He only admitted this to me about six months before we separated.
I'm honestly all over the place on this one. In reality, I'm with you Chrisine, I just want him to be happy and mentally healthy. It's what I've wanted for him for the 18 years I've known him and that will never change. However, I do hope that he does have to face the music for the crap he's put our children through. They're still suffering from the summer visit in June and won't speak to him. I'm torn on that one too... oh well.
Melanie