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What is wrong with me??
| Tue, 07-08-2008 - 3:21pm |
Yes, that was me bragging this morning about how strong I felt regarding the divorce and initial hearing yesterday.
| Tue, 07-08-2008 - 3:21pm |
Welcome to the club!
I'm pretty much in the same boat as you.
You are not alone.
I mostly lurk here but had to chime in. Reminds me of the old country song "I'm so miserable since you've been gone it almost feels like your here" Thought it might get a laugh or two.
Chantelle,
Riding the emotional rollercoaster is normal. (Sorry, I know you really didn't want to hear that.) It's part of the grief process. Divorce is a major decision. It's not done as lightly or quickly as we'd like to believe.
We also go through the "woulda,coulda,shouldas" i.e. "We wouldn't be getting divorced if he woulda _______ or if we coulda__________ or he shoulda____________. (Fill in the blanks). That's normal too, except if you keep doing it you'll get the same results as a dog chasing its tail. :)
The truth is you can't make your spouse into someone he's not or doesn't want to be. You can't "go back" and do over the past.
My advice? Find a support group or individual therapist with whom you can vent and share your frustrations. This too shall pass and you'll be able to move on with your emotions. I can't promise you it'll be quick, but it will eventually feel better.
All the best,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Some commonly misspelled words on this board:
You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Nothing is wrong with you, it's just hard to forget your relationship if you've been together a while.