What is wrong with me??

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Registered: 05-22-2004
What is wrong with me??
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Tue, 07-08-2008 - 3:21pm
Yes, that was me bragging this morning about how strong I felt regarding the divorce and initial hearing yesterday.
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Registered: 12-19-2001
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 3:58pm

Welcome to the club!


I'm pretty much in the same boat as you.

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Registered: 07-08-2008
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 5:54pm
You can make it through it! Believe in Yourself! Yes, there will be tears because you apparently have a heart. Pray minute by minute, second by second! God will get you to the other side and there will be light in your life again! Then you will Thank God for cleaning up your Life! It does get better!
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Registered: 06-21-2008
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 6:05pm
Yeah, I am on that rollercoaster with you too and I want to get off of it NOW!! It sucks, there's no doubt about it.
Phoenix Firebird 08
Phoenix Firebird 08
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 1:19pm

You are not alone.

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 1:53pm

I mostly lurk here but had to chime in. Reminds me of the old country song "I'm so miserable since you've been gone it almost feels like your here" Thought it might get a laugh or two.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 3:57pm

Chantelle,


Riding the emotional rollercoaster is normal. (Sorry, I know you really didn't want to hear that.) It's part of the grief process. Divorce is a major decision. It's not done as lightly or quickly as we'd like to believe.


We also go through the "woulda,coulda,shouldas" i.e. "We wouldn't be getting divorced if he woulda _______ or if we coulda__________ or he shoulda____________. (Fill in the blanks). That's normal too, except if you keep doing it you'll get the same results as a dog chasing its tail. :)


The truth is you can't make your spouse into someone he's not or doesn't want to be. You can't "go back" and do over the past.


My advice? Find a support group or individual therapist with whom you can vent and share your frustrations. This too shall pass and you'll be able to move on with your emotions. I can't promise you it'll be quick, but it will eventually feel better.


All the best,

CL-Wisdomtooth2020


Some commonly misspelled words on this board:


You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 07-10-2008
Thu, 07-10-2008 - 8:56am

Nothing is wrong with you, it's just hard to forget your relationship if you've been together a while.