What's going on here?

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What's going on here?
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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 4:32pm

I take antidepressants and recently they added Lamictal and it has thrown my sex drive into high gear. I am currently separated but living in the same house as the STBX. He says if I don't go through a years counseling he will contest the divorce and because of my mental health issues I have to give him that. He says if at the end of the year I still feel this way he will he will not contest the divorce. I am giving him everything but my car and custody of our daughter. I did say he could have liberal visitation and that would not be a problem. But for some reason ( I really think it's the Lamictal) I am having sex with him nightly. I keep telling him it means nothing that I haven't changed my mind but, it sends mixed signals.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 6:42pm

I posted about the same thing.

Katy

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 7:14pm

I dont know about the medication, but if he tells a judge/mediator/attorney that you are having sex nightly, that

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 9:07pm

Jukie,


I don't know all the circumstances of

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 4:14am

Hey WT2020,


I have been advised by an attorney to just get the divorce. He has informed me I would get $550 in child support and because of 23 of taking care of everything he said I will get alimony. My STBX will have to get another job. I really don't want anything. Nothing. I am entitled to part of his 401K and his pension. But had an affair once so that may be lost. We sold most of our furniture when STBX lost his job last year and haven't replaced any of it because of this situation. So mainly it is beds and dishes. He will be ok with me getting my daughters bed. And her things. I will miss the computer but will save up and get one. You ever hear that country song "just give it all away" that's the way I feel. We may have a big yard sale and sell the last of the furniture in the storage shed. I agreed to the year of counseling. But the last time I went the STBX said if I don't stick with the counseling he will bring up my mental health issues (I have Multiple Personality Disorder) and no judge will give me my daughter. SO I will stick the year out. I have a feeling he is going to try and get her anyway. But at least I can say we tried. The stupid therapist told him all kinds of things he could do to stop me from taking my daughter back to Florida. The lawyer I went to see said just get a divorce. It is the same amount of money and we wouldn't be miserable for the year. But I really want to stay here so MY DD can have a good year at school she is 8 and actually had to try out in front of a panel of three to make cheerleader and has piano and Brownies already going. I wish not to disturb her life as much as possible. She doesn't even know we are separated. I would sleep on the couch if we had one but I don't want to buy one now. My medicine has made me the steadiest I have EVER been . I just have to start controlling myself. Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it.


Saelee

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