What's it like moving out?

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Registered: 06-23-2003
What's it like moving out?
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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 9:28am
Hi,
I just now have started the divorce process. I'm just wondering what it's like when you move out away from your H? I have never lived alone before. Will things get worse or easier?
Thanks,
Kelly

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Registered: 10-26-2005
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 12:16pm
For me it has been both but for the most part easier.The only thing that is worse for me is the financial situation.I dont have a very good paying job but im very blessed to have parents that can help me out when I need it and dd is 17 and started working so she has her own money to help out on her gas and some of her other expenses.I never really lived alone either but then realized I was alone even when I was living with stbx.I have to say for me it is much easier and dd and I are much happier and thats what matters most to me.
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Registered: 06-23-2003
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 12:24pm
Thanks for replying.It is true about being lonely even in a marriage. And I have been for the most part. I guess I fear taking the final step because it's just so , well , final. I guess it's ultimately admitting that my marriage didn't work out and the divorce is very real. A part of me is having trouble leaving H behind. I also have a child so I won't be totally alone.
Kelly
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Registered: 02-23-2006
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 3:03pm
i have been lurking on this board as well as EAS. i just wanted to comment that i am thinking of filing for a divorce and moving on as well. i am worried about living on my own with two children (15 and 10). I must admit, reflecting on my marriage during the past 6 years of 20, i have been living alone with an empty shell where my husband used to be. sad, but when you live a lonely life with your spouse you might as well search for happiness somewhere else.
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Registered: 02-28-2006
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 10:22pm

Both my friend....Lordy it was hard..too hard to move out but exciting that I also was... Ready to put those memories to bed but without anything to replace them with I was really scared. Still am if I shall be honest...but it's been a great experience to get to know my ex without the anger and to finally know what it feels like to be happy.

Good luck....and take your stuff with you....nothing like "nesting" to help with the transition...

xoxo

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 10:41pm
Hi whatabadidea!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 10:45pm

Hi Kelly... I never lived "alone" (if ya don't count my kiddos.... I never lived where I alone was responsible for "everything") until I divorced.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 06-23-2003
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 8:28am
Thanks for replying. Was it weird coming home and not having a spouse there? Did you get lonely? Any suggestions for easing the transition will be helpful . Thanks!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 8:43am

Well, we lived together during the divorce until our house sold... so "home" was a new place of my own (with my kids), and I think that it being a change of scenery made it easier.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 06-23-2003
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 9:07am
Thanks so much. This is the hardest thing I've ever done and it helps talking to others who've BTDT.
Kelly
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Registered: 07-08-2004
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 11:32am

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