When do you know you need therapy?
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| Sun, 11-11-2007 - 9:04pm |
Hi all... my first thread/post.
How does one know if they need counseling/therapy? AND how do you all afford it?
I am divorcing from my second marriage. My first marriage was based on lies and abuse, lasted 3 years. We had one child which he 'kidnapped' at age 2 and hid for years (never got him back).
My second marriage was a year and half later. Eighteen years together, many moves. This marriage was also based on lies, deceit, and abuse. I just moved out while he was at work 6 weeks ago.
Backing up a bit, I come from a bad childhood and had my first child at age 16, another by age 18, another on my 20th birthday, finally married (a different man) and had my stolen son when I was 23. I have been poor and have a co-dependency problem on ANYONE pretty much who gives me attention/acts as if they love me.
This last marriage I have left 3 times before in the past, but always came back for the security (ie: money) I have been living the past 10 years with him with one foot out the door. I have been purchasing items for years for an apt. and stashing them around our house..basically living two lives, one as his wife, the other "life" a secret. I have disliked him for many many years and am so happy I took this step!
Now I am so scared. I don't miss/need him, but the world is so scary! I do not have a job. I was in college when I walked away, but the judge pretty much ordered me to quit school and get a job. Not easy when you havent worked in 7 yrs. I feel so lost, confused, and am having a hard time getting my act together.
I am raising my 4 yr old granddaughter who I got guardianship of when she was one. I do not receive child support though there are court orders for it.
I am sure you are all going to say YES!! YOU NEED THERAPY!! Especially if I told you that I drink too much, have been suicidal in the past, and do not think I even know what a real, loving relationship is suppose to be like, as I KNOW I have never experienced it.
SO, poor as I am, again, how can I afford therapy?

Well.... I think that you know you need therapy... when you're asking yourself if you need therapy! :-)
Talk to your primary care doctor to see what the options are.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~