When to give up and move on?
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| Mon, 02-26-2007 - 12:20pm |
My friends are getting tired of me just putting myself out there and
waiting for my soon-to-be-ex-husband to decide he made a mistake when he asked for a
divorce. I went out with some friends saturday night and my husband
asked if he could go and I said yes. We had a wonderful time, just
like old times. He sent me an email when he got home that night
telling me "I don't know why I can't leave you alone. I guess
sometimes it's just easier to live in the fantasy that everything is
ok than to deal with the reality. I just love you so much that it's
hard for me to let go." My friends tell me that he doesn't want me
back, he just wont let go. They tell me to quit waiting for him and
move on with my life. Why can't I move on with my life? Why do I
keep waiting for him to decide when it's time for me to move on?
UGH!!! My husband hasn't emailed me or phoned me since that night.
It makes what my friends say seem so true. I know it's only been two days
but it hurts. My husbands friends tell me to just give it time
because he's confused and he needs to work some things out in his
mind. How long do I wait?
Someone tell me what to do! Someone that isn't a "friend".
Background~ I lied to him about finances twice, he said I lost his trust and he can't be married to me anymore. We tried to stay together during the divorce for financial reasons but two weeks ago I had to move out b/c it was too hard to live with someone I loved that didn't want to be with me anymore. He tells me he loves me all the time, gave me roses for valentines day (which he didn't do when we were married). I have hurt him, badly and I understand that but stringing me along isn't painless. I don't think he's trying to hurt me, he's confused too.
