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| Tue, 08-22-2006 - 2:35pm |
Hi,
I've just started the divorce process and my STBX is already lining up dates. I'm just wondering the pros and cons of dating again so soon. (not that anyone is asking me). He seems to think a rebound relationship will help him deal with things, and frankly it's kind of hard just sitting around on the weekends while he is out dating. I'm not that eager to date right now but figure, heck, if it works for him...
Any advice?
Kelly
I've just started the divorce process and my STBX is already lining up dates. I'm just wondering the pros and cons of dating again so soon. (not that anyone is asking me). He seems to think a rebound relationship will help him deal with things, and frankly it's kind of hard just sitting around on the weekends while he is out dating. I'm not that eager to date right now but figure, heck, if it works for him...
Any advice?
Kelly

There are lots of other activities that you can get involved with (classes, groups/clubs, hobbies) besides to "date".... which I wouldn't do until you feel like you're good and ready.
You can always use the weekend time to clean out a closet, paint a room, read a book, or have lunch/dinner with a girlfriend
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
As a divorced single parent I can tell you there is alot out there that tells you not to date for at least a year. This is called the One Year Rule. I broke the rule many years ago many times and did some dating for a number of years before deciding to get my head on straight. the not dating is called being in the "convent", I'm currently the Mother Superior.
I post on another board called Dating as A Single Parent(DASP). Here's the link.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-psdatesingle
There is alot of wonderful people with lots of BTDT T-Shirts and we are always willing to let you borrow them. When and if you visit remember to take what you can use and leave the rest. There are a lot of people still trying to figure things out for themselves, so some times they come across harsh.
Jer- you seem to have the general idea that you need to be comfortable before you date and I wish you much luck.