Where do I start? Advice needed....
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| Wed, 12-28-2005 - 9:16pm |
After 2 years of dealing with internet, porn, phone sex, etc... counseling, his & mine... marital counseling... SA... S-Anon... enough is enough. I am not sure how to do this, but I now know I need to. I just found out he did actually phyically cheat as well. And it's worse than I could have planned for I think. I found out - he didn't tell. He had two years ++++++ of me asking him if he slept with anyone... especially our most recent episode of therapy, counseling... I said if there is anything else I need to know - I need to know it now b/c I can't keep being blindsided. But yet I was. Thus I am here.
I will figure this out somehow but I dont know where to start. I have a job with a non profit. Doesn't pay the most money, but I'll see the raise I get in January & then look at finances, and if I need to find one that pays more, then I will. We bought a house in November. The entire down payment came from an inheritance I received that was just in my name. I don't want to lose the house if possible. It's a few blocks from my parents. And I have enough saved to pay at least the first year of monthly payments if necessary, but the money I make should help too until I can make long term plans. I'm very close to my manager & she knows we've been having problems, so at least work wise for now I have a supportive & understanding environment. Moving home with my parents is not an option. They are great & I love them, but they have their own marital issues & it's not healthy for me to be living there. We have no kids. My dog loves the house & though he could surprise me again, my husband knows he's inthe wrong & I should be able to amicably get some type of support. He's a pilot & makes decent money. I live in IL... I have no idea where to go or what to do. I want to have a plan - none of my family except my brother who is out of state know about all this... and I want to have some type of plan in the works so it is what I want instead of what everyone else wants by "helping" as I know my family will try to do - they really do mean well but. I honestly didn't think I'd be here... or at least not so soon after this last episode.
Please help. I need advice, I need to know where to start... I still am in shock & enotional but I am also feeling a sense of relief that I finally know this is the right decision. This last info confirmed that.

Hi!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~