Where does it hurts so much

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Where does it hurts so much
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Tue, 07-08-2008 - 4:49pm

My husband and I have been seperated for over an year now. He just had a baby boy with another girl. Now mind you we are still married. I live with a guy.

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Gwennie....

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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:38am

Dear Gwennie:


I hope this doesn't come across as too harsh, but...I can see how someone can want a trial separation to figure out what they want, but it doesn't mean the person left behind has to put their life on hold.

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Registered: 03-01-2008
Thu, 07-10-2008 - 11:12am
Moving forward with the divorce really makes it official.

 

 

 

 

 

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Thu, 07-10-2008 - 3:10pm

I want to Thank you bothfor replying. I understand what your saying. I know our kids even though they are 14, and 17 that it prolly is hard on them. When I think that its gonna be over soon, it just really hurts. I know we both have other people in our lives. I just thinking we have known each other since 1st grade. He still calls me to I guess just talk. I can sit there and talk to him on the phone like nothing is wrong. He talks about the boys and even how bad things are with his GF. and suprisely he talks about his baby boy. All I do is sit there and listen, like I have always done with him.


I know we can't go back, I think thats the hardest of it all. Theres alot of times I miss him very much. When I see the boys, I think about him. It does seems like I have been putting my life on hold for some reason, which very easliy could of been cause of him.


Why do you think he calls me and will even talk to me about his new baby boy? That part I haven't gotten yet. I know his having problems with her, that is what he tells me anyways. I just get so confused about it all. I prolly am making this all harder then needs to be, we have been through alot together. For some reason I keep thinking that once divorced he will forget all that time. I don't want that to happen.


But Thank you again for the advice, its all very grateful to me.

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Gwennie....

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Fri, 07-11-2008 - 1:59pm

Well, I went to sign the papers today, BUT..I was told that I needed the 150 to file it. See on I thought the lawyer and I had it worked out that we would make payments on it. But now I need this up front. so, as it goes I don't have money, and my still husband doesn't have any money either. So I called and talked to him about signing but can't file them because I don't have the money. And I know my relatives won't help out with this.


So I told him that it looks like we will be married for a very long while, He said well you don't see me running off to a lawyer do you, I just told him that it will happen when its suppose too. He said yeah.


Now I just need to forget about it and keep moving forward with my life and still being married to him. I know its possible, but it will be hard to at times.


I just wanted to put it out there and see if anyone else is going through it also

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Gwennie....

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Sat, 07-12-2008 - 2:05pm
Hello everyone, Has are we all today??

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