Where does your visitation take place?

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Registered: 03-30-2008
Where does your visitation take place?
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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 5:50am

So my H is STILL living in a hotel. And he thinks it's perfectly fine that he does his visitation at the house. I've tried to explain to him that I'd like to have time to myself. I'd like to do stuff around the house and it would help if the kids were there (painting, cleaning, heck, just relax). He says things like "it's my house" or "I can be there when I want."


Last night I came home and he'd been at the house with the kids. And of course then I had to spend time picking up after the kids AND HIM! I just don't think this is fair.


Now granted we do not have a formal agreement yet...I see the attorney next week Thursday. But still--it seems very unfair to me that he can have all his personal space and mystery (I don't even know what hotel he's at), but he gets to intrude in my life under the guise of "visitation."


Has anyone been in this situation? How did you handle it? How did you change it? Or anyone--what input/suggestions could you lend? Am I being selfish?


PS...I have nothing to hide from him--it's not like I'm dating or entertaining or anything like that. I'm just tired of him parading in and out as he pleases.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 10:52am

When I first got div, my ex used to have visits at my house because at that time, he was renting a room in a house where 2 other guys lived, so it wasn't that ideal to bring the kids over there.

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 3:08pm

I wouldn't be able to deal with

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 4:08pm

I did not find this ever to be a problem w/ our kids.


I have a friend who got divorced, her DH moved out & bought his own house in the neighborhood to be convenient for the kids, a year or 2 later, he convinced her

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Registered: 02-07-2008
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 4:49pm

I don't have children, but my BF does and he does not allow the visits in him home at all!!

KLM