Where to go from here?
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|Wed, 06-29-2011 - 12:09am|
Two weeks ago my husband and I had a conversation-turned-fight about how tense we've been lately and how distant he's been. I told him he was showing signs of depression, because I know depression and he definitely was. I asked him to go seek therapy with me, and he refused. He was acting so strange, and I ended up asking him to stay with a friend that night to give us some space.
The next morning, I texted him to talk about working things out. No answer. I texted again. No answer. I called. Straight to voicemail. Finally at 4:30, he called and told me he had flown to NYC. Wtf?? Then it all came out. A month ago he went to his friend's wedding. Our (6 month old) daugther and I couldn't go b/c the friend had said no kids at the wedding (yeah, nice). He told me he met a girl there who lives in NYC and within 2 minutes of talking to her, he knew she was the one for him. He said he's in love with her. I finally got him to say that he wanted a divorce. This is so unlike him and we've known each other for 8 years/been married for 3. As far as I can tell, it's not drugs or a crisis, he just feels he was with the wrong person. He said he will not be an absent father and that he will support us financially. He is going to stay living here, and when I asked, he told me the girl is going to move here.
It's been 2.5 weeks since I found out, and things are more manageable, but still so hard. My daughter and I moved out and got an apartment and we've had a few visitations where he comes over for 2 hours a few times a week to be with the baby. (Suggested by my attorney and a child specialist.) It's been hard, but I am able to realize that I'm better off without this man.
Where do I go from here? I feel so broken... so worthless and unloved.
Thanks for reading.