Where is a good place to meet men
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| Tue, 08-08-2006 - 11:26am |
In trying to heal emotionally and physically from what's happnened Ive realized that I was still somewhat living a bit in the past. Ive never really "got out there" since the breakup with ds dad. Ive sort of hoped that love would find me. Ha, fat chance. I just work, go get ds come home and that's it. I just let taking care of him be all that I do
I have to live a bit for me because life is so short. Im not saying that Im ready to jump into anything with some other guy especially not after what just happened. However, I wouldnt mind having nice conversation with someone of the opposite sex ya know. Like a walk in the park, a cup of tea or coffee. You know the whole courting thing. No pressure of sex or anything, just the fun getting to know someone. One of the things I remember and really loved when I was with ex is we talked about everything (in the beginning) boy did that change (ha ha).
My mom always says "life is what you make it". I think I need to start doing some of the making because Ive left that to others (ex and this new, recent jerk) and what was made didnt come out so great. Where do you girls go to meet people?

first, positive thoughts and prayers as you recover from such a challenging and unfortunate episode of losing your baby.
now, your question about where to meet the "men." then, i ask myself, "why?" most start out GREAT in the beginning; it's all a part of the "sell." then, when you're in the day-to-day of it, ugh!! i mean no one could have told me in the beginning that my STBX would turn out to be such a sorry sack of grits and lower than a flea's belly! he was a perfect gentlemen and possessed most of the qualities i admire in a man. soooo, i'm very, very leary of not only "meeting" men, but also establishing that relationship with them or eventually, the "one."
but in the interim, my girlfriends begged me to "get online" throw my profile up at a couple of online dating sites, so, i did and the responses have been, uh, overwhelming. yes, and this was after STBX told mutual friend of ours that i was "desperate" and wouldn't find true love like he's found it with his skank GF after another mutual friend's wife said STBX found my profile online (why was he searching for ANYONE online if he's soooo happy with skank GF??) alll in my business.
anyhow, indeed, you will experience some frogs right off the bat, but that's a good thing cause it's allll out there without getting too serious with a person. and what i really dig is that a lot of these sites go based on "personality" opposed to appearance or smoking mirrors. also, you get to "chat" with someone extensively without the pressure of sex and intimacy, especially if they're long distance!
personally, i think it's fun, not too serious if you don't want to be, provides ample of folks (of your choosing) to chat/talk with ... and the stigma isn't attached to online dating anymore because basically folks are busy and who has time to hang out at a "club" or wait around the produce section squeezing on melons to meet a decent guy??
and a major secret here ladies is that many, many of the men in my age group have gone through divorces and they just "give up the goods" on their own venting & i've gotten exceptional "advice" on how STBX's behavior will twist and turn (and how i should react and what my attorney should know, etc.) as we move deeper into this divorce process, from a male's perspective and men who've "been there, done that" (hee hee) ...