Where I am at...

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Where I am at...
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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 4:40pm
Hi Every body,
I feel like I’m in two lives at the same time. One is my old life with my STBX and the other is in my new life with whoever else is there with me. I had a brief relationship with someone and just ended morning the loss of that. So, it just feels like a weird place to be, so I thought I would post here, because I think others can understand. I just feel like I’m in a new life, but have not adjusted to the old one. Like the loss of the role of wife is not quiet finished and yet it is done. I’m excited about this new life, and sad that it is about to begin.
So that’s where I am at, Anna
In Love and Peace, Anna
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Registered: 12-24-2004
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 6:36pm

I am in the same boat although I haven't dated anyone. I can totally relate to feeling not quite single but not quite married. I was the one who asked for the divorce but find myself missing being married. He seems very happy, relieved, and full of life now and I miss that man. (He had become so depressed before I had made the decision) I do not regret my decision whatsoever but I do miss the comfort of being with someone.

Hang in there girly.....I'll leave you with a thought from my mother....

"Doors aren't closed without others being opened..it's just the HALLWAYS ARE A BITCH!!!!"

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 6:45pm

Hi...

I would say that what you're feeling is completely normal... even though it can be a confusing time... I love the other poster's mom's quote... that is classic...

I an say, though, that your post felt very calming to me... maybe it was the little steaming cup icon or what you said, but you seem at peace, which is important...Good luck getting through this meantime...

*hugs*

Julie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 3:10pm

Hi Anna..... it's good to see you!


It sounds like you're making progress, you're just not exactly where you want to be yet, and that's OK.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-17-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 3:30pm

That's a great thought from your mother. She's a very wise woman!

Trudy

 

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