WHEW it went of w/o a hitch......

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WHEW it went of w/o a hitch......
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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 9:14am

Man, you guys must have been doing an indian rain dance for me or something because thank god there was NO, NOOOOOO altercations this weekend. He did however, not take both of his makeups only Saturday. My guy friend was there and he swears that is my "new man" isnt by the way but hey let him think it is.

Here is the thing that kills me or I dont get. He hates me right. Curses me etc, but as soon as he picks up the baby calls my sister's boyfriend to complain that the guy was there. EXCUSE ME. Saying he follows me everywhere I go like a dummy. But meanwhile whenever he comes, he is with his gf. So what the heck is up with my ex. Is he delusional or what. I didnt say a word to him. Im sooooo proud of myself, I cant believe it. He even tried to provoke me big time too. I bit down on my tongue hard as heck and didnt say a word. My Goodness. He doesnt want to talk to me but called me twice that day, once after he dropped the baby off nothing important at all. The second time I let the machine pick it up.

Sunday comes, what does he do, call my sister's boyfriend asking him to ask about a HAT! that he bought for the baby, he wants it back. Hugh! If its for the baby then why does he want it back? Then he hands me the phone asking me if I saw the hat. I said no I cant look for it now and handed the phone back to my sis' bf. So he told him we were out he'd talk to him later. Later he calls him again now complaining about me owing him money from when he sued me and his tax return was seized for back child support and he needs the money I owe him. What the hell is wrong with this man. What am Im missing.

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 9:29am

He is an immature a$$ that is what his problem is. You know what though? He ain't your immature a$$ any longer and for that you should be thankful.

See how just changing your reactions and behaviors changes the whole situation. He will stop trying to bait you once he realizes it won't work any longer. Good job Luv.

Did he end up going to the Dr with you?

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 10:06am

Well, look at you!...... Amazing!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 10:28am

LOL, you're right.

Ofcourse he didnt show to meet with the Dr. He is always late for his visits and that was no change. What did tick me off is that he bought the baby another coat which is shorter than his existing coat and kept the one he's been wearing. Why he keeps doing this I dont know. I dont put the big leggings on him because his coat was long, this new one goes right to his butt and everything else is exposed. Why would he do this, keeping the longer more appropiate coat for this weather. That hurt me because the weather is not supposed to warm up until maybe Friday, no guarantees though. What would be the courts views on issues of him keeping clothes.

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 11:09am

The courts would probably just tell him to start cooperating. They can't make him but they can suggest it.

Luv it sounds like you have a huge responsibility, both financial and emotional, are you getting any kind of support? I would imagine you would qualify for some aid, either food or cash assistance. Please do not hesitate to take advantage of whatever you can to make your load a little lighter. There are programs, at least here where I live, that can give you a new coat for your son. Here I think it is the Salvation Army who does that, call them and see if they will give you one and then just send him in the older one so it does not matter if it comes back or not.

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 11:33am
That's a good suggestion. I will check it out. The thing with him I cant get is it's his son too, why would you take away a good coat that is for this cold weather and put him a new coat that is much shorter than the first one. It's fine that he wanted to buy him another coat but just make sure they are the same right?
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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 11:45am
or, if he wants him to have a certain kind of coat when he's got the kiddo... he needs to hang onto the coat that he chooses.... but... pick your battles... little steps.... and don't forget the BIG step that happened this weekend ;-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 11:54am
I know, little steps. It's like okay fine if your do something like keeping something and if you replace it, just make sure when you replace something, it's of equal value as what you took ya know. It just burns me up. But I hear ya about picking your battles.
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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 12:43pm

I know it's frustrating... and if the pickup caught him off guard, it could very well be that he pulled this coat thing to see if that would rattle your cage.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 12:58pm

LOL, I know for sure that he pulled this coat thing on purpose for the fact that he left a message for me asking about a hat he "left" in the coat that he wants back, but meanwhile the hat if for the baby. Then again the next day he called my sis' bf this time still asking about the hat. I spoke to him very briefly on sun said I was out couldnt check for now. Ha, he must be stunned that I didnt ask for the other coat knowing it was more appropriate for the still cold weather. It was darn hard I'll tell you but now I see how he was dying for me too and I can laugh at it.

I just hope and pray he doesnt try to pull anything else.

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 3:01pm

Well hopes and prayers are great..... but don't hold your breath.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~