Dh (and that's dumb, not dear) is spending my moving money!
In Mar, we received a $5500 tax refund, $5000 of which was supposed to be saved for my move in Jul. The move will cost just under $5000.
I checked the account, at an ATM, just after I put $100 down for the move, and discovered there was just over $2000 in the account! That means dh spent almost $3500!
When I asked him about it, he reminded me that I agreed that he could buy something for himself that cost $100. He also has consolidated his debts and had to make a payment for $577 for that. Ok, that explains about $700, but what about the rest of the money he spent?!
I got online to look at our account and try to find some explanations. He has a lot of explaining to do! Looking at the bank statements for Mar and Apr, I found lots of large amounts ($250 or higher) that were spent on who knows what! I even found one amount of $800. What the heck did he spend $800 on?!
Now we have to come up with another $3000 for my move!
Today would have been an anniversary with my EX. He calls to talk to our son, then asks to speak to me. I'm not too keen on this because I am sure it will dissolve into insanity....which it does.
To make a long story short, DS pulled a muscle in his leg, and it hurts him when he runs. So, we've been tossing back and forth taking a trip to the dr's office. I wanted to discuss it with ex first.
When I first saw this thread I thought I didn't have anything to vent about! Sheesh!
I am in a Girl Scout carpool. The other girl we pick up lives on the opposite side of town but our meetings are in the middle. It's not a big deal to go to her house and drop both girls off at the meeting on my way home. Well, tonight's meeting is at the firehouse, just east of my house (she lives at the west end of my town) so although it seems so silly, I know I'm helping out the other mom and I fight rush hour traffic - which is terrible- to the other end of town to get the girl. My DD goes to the door and rings and rings and no answer. I call their phone and no answer. I call the mom's cell phone and she says, "Oh oops! I meant to call you!". Their son was in a baseball game near the fire station (right by my house!) and they figured they'd just take their daughter to the meeting. OMG! It took me 20 minutes to get to their house from mine and the firehouse is seriously five minutes away from my home. I felt so taken advantage of. This is not the first time she's flaked out on me and caused me extra work or embarassment (she once told the troop leader that I was going to plan a meeting for her, but neglected to tell ME) and I'm more than a bit peeved. Sigh.... two more meetings to go...
I continue to be sooo very angry at my ex and his sense of "entitlement" to verbalize any and every negative emotion that crosses his mind. Day before yesterday, he humiliated/ridiculed our DD, the one he threw out of HIS house, but doesn't care about her hurt feelings one little bit. I'm the one who has to comfort her and try to explain him. And how do I do that, without running him down to her? He's cruel and verbally abusive. Period. One of the reasons our marriage was a miserable place to be.
He lives his life one breath away from rage and whatever crosses his mind comes out his mouth and if you get your feelings hurt by what he says, it's YOUR problem. He gets over it in 5 minutes, until the next rage, that is...and is happy as a clam and can't figure out why everybody around him is upset.
Sheesh! I got away. My poor daughters have to be exposed to it still.
You asked for it, you got it, lol!
Dh (and that's dumb, not dear) is spending my moving money!
In Mar, we received a $5500 tax refund, $5000 of which was supposed to be saved for my move in Jul. The move will cost just under $5000.
I checked the account, at an ATM, just after I put $100 down for the move, and discovered there was just over $2000 in the account! That means dh spent almost $3500!
When I asked him about it, he reminded me that I agreed that he could buy something for himself that cost $100. He also has consolidated his debts and had to make a payment for $577 for that. Ok, that explains about $700, but what about the rest of the money he spent?!
I got online to look at our account and try to find some explanations. He has a lot of explaining to do! Looking at the bank statements for Mar and Apr, I found lots of large amounts ($250 or higher) that were spent on who knows what! I even found one amount of $800. What the heck did he spend $800 on?!
Now we have to come up with another $3000 for my move!
Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.
Carol
OK, I am going to vent, too!
Today would have been an anniversary with my EX. He calls to talk to our son, then asks to speak to me. I'm not too keen on this because I am sure it will dissolve into insanity....which it does.
To make a long story short, DS pulled a muscle in his leg, and it hurts him when he runs. So, we've been tossing back and forth taking a trip to the dr's office. I wanted to discuss it with ex first.
When I first saw this thread I thought I didn't have anything to vent about! Sheesh!
I am in a Girl Scout carpool. The other girl we pick up lives on the opposite side of town but our meetings are in the middle. It's not a big deal to go to her house and drop both girls off at the meeting on my way home. Well, tonight's meeting is at the firehouse, just east of my house (she lives at the west end of my town) so although it seems so silly, I know I'm helping out the other mom and I fight rush hour traffic - which is terrible- to the other end of town to get the girl. My DD goes to the door and rings and rings and no answer. I call their phone and no answer. I call the mom's cell phone and she says, "Oh oops! I meant to call you!". Their son was in a baseball game near the fire station (right by my house!) and they figured they'd just take their daughter to the meeting. OMG! It took me 20 minutes to get to their house from mine and the firehouse is seriously five minutes away from my home. I felt so taken advantage of. This is not the first time she's flaked out on me and caused me extra work or embarassment (she once told the troop leader that I was going to plan a meeting for her, but neglected to tell ME) and I'm more than a bit peeved. Sigh.... two more meetings to go...
Melanie
I continue to be sooo very angry at my ex and his sense of "entitlement" to verbalize any and every negative emotion that crosses his mind. Day before yesterday, he humiliated/ridiculed our DD, the one he threw out of HIS house, but doesn't care about her hurt feelings one little bit. I'm the one who has to comfort her and try to explain him. And how do I do that, without running him down to her? He's cruel and verbally abusive. Period. One of the reasons our marriage was a miserable place to be.
He lives his life one breath away from rage and whatever crosses his mind comes out his mouth and if you get your feelings hurt by what he says, it's YOUR problem. He gets over it in 5 minutes, until the next rage, that is...and is happy as a clam and can't figure out why everybody around him is upset.
Sheesh! I got away. My poor daughters have to be exposed to it still.