Who's here & Where are you?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Who's here & Where are you?
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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 12:47am

Hi everyone... There are lots of new faces, and it seems like I've been so busy lately that I haven't been as in touch here as I'd like to have been.


Tell us who you are, and anything about yourself that you'd like to share and what part of the world you live in.


I'm Karen from Nashville, TN.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 04-19-2006
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 7:04pm

Hello all,

I have been separated a few months after 10+ years of marriage and two kids (6 an 7). stbx came home one day out of the blue (for me I guess not for him), said he'd been unhappy for a while, had met someone else and wasn't interested on working on anything. On other words "see ya".

It's been tough but I have great famiy and friends who are been supportive and my kids are the light of my life.

stbx and I have left everything to the lawyers and talk to each other about the kids and nothing else. It seems to be working.

Hugs to everyone.

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 7:28pm

Hi - Nice to get to know everyone and thanks for the warm invitation.

My name is Brenda and I live in CT. I was together with my HS sweetheart for 20 years and have been married for 12 years. I have 2 kids Tyler (11) and Ryan (5). My STBX and I work together for my family's business.

I just recently moved into my own place (beginning of April) and I'm still spending alot of time decorating and organizing. My sons are keeping me busy with their baseball schedules.

I'm getting alot more free time for myself and STBX is finding out how hectic everything is since he is now carting them around because they still go to school in this town and I live 30 minutes away. My mom has been really great being recently retired, she has volunteered to drive them to there same school. I didn't want them to change schools mid year.

anyways, time to pick up the kids from STBX.

It's nice to bounce things off people here at the message boards because I've found that alot of our mutual friends have kept their distance because he turns into the he said she said. I'm hoping in time I can rekindle some of those relationships but right now I'm keeping my distance.

Brenda
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 9:04pm

Hey there...

I'm Julie, mom to Joey (5) and we're in metro Atlanta... My xh and I separated in July of 2003 and divorced in April of 2004...

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Registered: 02-28-2007
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 10:27pm
I am lydia. We have been separted for 8 months now because he is deployed but I have finally put an end to our 13 year mariage 2 months ago. I couldn't deal with the lies and affairs anymore. The legal separation is done, I'll file for the divorce soon. We are still talking and being friendly. I guess we still love each other but he has a problem and refuses to fix it so... We have 2 kids, 13 and 5 years. The kids and I are fixing to move back to France from Hawaii. I really love Hawaii but can't afford to stay here and I have my whole family back home in France.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:32pm

Wow... that sounds very cold and heartless.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:34pm
It is good to have another outlet and support system... and this was, and continues to be a great place for me.... you're in the right place with us!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:35pm
Hi Lydia.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:36pm

Hi..... just wanted to say that ;-)


Hope you are having a good week!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 1:02am

Hi, I'm quite new here and I don't know why I haven't checked this board out before. I've been venting in the understanding men and single parenting areas most often. I guess the separation of H and I simply fastforwarded my thinking (wishful) of moving on.

We separated a week before X-mas 2006, I'm 8 months pregnant now and have DD 3 & 1/2 with me. H and I have set up a good visitation for our DD, but I think it will be adjusted when baby #2 arrives, also when DD goes to pre-school, $ support is pretty good (I'm thinking compared to other women) though money is still tight for both households - we're both in rental units. DD is adjusting as best as can be expected though she's a lively child (from the day she was born, very energetic).

H claims we drifted apart due to trust issues, a few years ago I posted on another internet forum about our problems and he read the postings and replies. He never could forgive that even though it's o.k. for him to talk about our problems to his friends and family. I (during early pregnancy and hormones raging) got fed up of his emotional affairs with other women. Again he didn't see any problem of having "female friends" of his own - even though it also affected his work and nearly got him suspended just recently over work cell phone calls after hours (latest one to "light up his life" is a secretary at his work). Not my problem any more, I'm enjoying the peace and decrease in stress of not having to live with him. I just daily keep my fingers crossed that his sheer stupidity won't get him fired and therefore $ becomes a big problem. I have nightmares about him losing his job and trying to move back with me to re-group himself. He's not a bad looking man either, it's what's inside him that stinks so much it repulses me. This time last year I never would have thought that way, that's what I think burns me up the most is knowing I'll have to deal with him till the kids are up and out on their own - many, many years and I detest him that much. I don't say such things to him though as what good will it do for our "amicable" arrangements.

We're in Ontario, Canada. Sadly it seems to be a large # of us single parents around here.

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Registered: 02-28-2007
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 2:09am
I know what you mean about the emotional affairs and how they say there is nothing wrong with it. Yeah right; then why did my husband almost got kicked out of the military then?
I was slower than u, it took me 13 years to finally say enough is enough but like you I am enjoying my peace and quiet. Good luck to you
lydia