Why are they so unreliable!!!!!!!?
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| Mon, 01-22-2007 - 11:39pm |
I am so ANGRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I get it, he doesn't want to work on our marriage. He destroyed us financially, was verbally abusive to me and one of our kids, and was basically a Jeckyll and Hyde to live with. Nothing live not handling depression and then lying about everything, big or small, all the time............
But how can he justify constantly not showing up for the visits with the kids!? He constantly screws up when he is supposed to see them. The kids are hurting and it makes me want to scream (and, unfortunatly, I did very loudly tonight on the phone.) The kids are constantly hurting. These men have no-one to take care of but themselves and they still can't show up when they are supposed to. I am so afraid of what this is showing the kids about relationships. I worry that long-term they are going to either grow into commitment-phobes or being needy in their relationships because of how unreliable he is.....ARRGHHH!!!!!!!!! Thanks for listening..........

Hey its ok to be angry. And you should be. Is there any way you can sit down and talk to him about this and what is healthy for the kids? I am so sorry you have to go through this.
Hang in there. Love your kids alot. and do talk to him, ask him if he cares for his children and tell him that it hurts them and could have lasting effects on them if he doesnt start being more reliable.
I got angry again tonight at my stbx. he filed for divorce and there is another woman. But he said he wouldnt contact her while he is living here or while we are married. which the divorce will be final in about 10 days I think. Why do I even care if he contacts her? I just dont know. He has to live here for a while as we cant afford two households right now. anyway I have to vent.......too. I asked him for his cell phone password for voice mail and for his email password so I could monitor him and he absolutely refuses .....so I figure they still have dirty little secrets.
Why I am doing this? it causes me to blow up and him to ridicule my behavior and if I say a cuss word he demeans me and says his adulterous religious lady doesnt talk that way. I said well which is worse,? being married and telling another womans husband you will have sex all he wants OR saying the F word?
But she is the holy lady and I am disgusting?
So I know how you feel being soooo angry at him!! Go kick some pillows or something I guess. I cant force him to give me the passwords and why do I want them? our divorce is almost final.
good grief I have got to get ahold of myself. I really am making a fool of myself.
Its just INFURIATING how grown adults cant realize how hurtful they can be to children ... to thier OWN children!
The best you can do is be the stable, loving adult who they KNOW they can count on. & keep the dialougue open about how they feel. Im so sorry.