Why does it take so long to know?
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|Thu, 04-25-2013 - 6:01pm|
Everything between my husband was going great until he told me that he didn't want to be with me anymore. We are very honest towards each other and I don't believe that their is another woman but I believe that he just got tired, feels like being with himself without have me as a variable in his life, doesn't want to be married and prefers to be with his family members whom he has been disconnected from for a few years. He says he loves me and would like to remain friends-pay rent until I stabilize and trusts me. Days went by until I approached him with a negotiation to go for a separation (which is what I believed was going to happen anyway) and not immedietely file for divorce in spite or rage or being impulsive. I have the belief that time apart is great ( we've spent excessive amount of time with each other and kind of stop communicating ) and time apart has allowed me to reflect on outside issues and now I'm motivated to change. But I'm also impatient to just know from him if he wants to be with me or not. If you don't want to be with someone, you just don't? Right? I'm very black or white, yes or no. I still don't entirely dislike my husband for even doing this to me, but I'm just confused, what's the hold up? Why can't I get answers? Why is my spouse ignoring me and if he want's to leave, why is his stuff still in my apartment? What's with the uncertainty?
I ask him if he wants to be with me and he doesn't know? If you have to ask yourself that, doesn't it just mean no?
I don't think he will file. Although I've been blindsided with this. Divorce time will be a minimum of 6months here where I live. That will be more than enough time to think it over but why hasn't he filed yet if he was so certain? We've been married for 3 years and a few months.