Why me?
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| Thu, 08-02-2007 - 11:47pm |
Well I have posted a few times on here and the BS boards. Just a quick reminder of my story...We have been married for 11 years and have 3 boys. H decided to leave on May 22 and has moved in with a younger single guy friend of his. I at first begged and pleaded for him to come home and still cry all the time. I am trying to do the 180 and sometimes it seems to really work, but than I let my guard down and let him get to me. I have yet to get any truth from him as to what is going on. I have strong feelings that there is someone elas in the picture but I cannot get the proof or get him to tell me. He has done nothing but go out and drink the whole time we have been apart. This is the most horriable thing I have ever gone through...I would not wish this pain on anyone. I just keep asking myself why is this happening? I just wish he would open his eyes and see the hurt he is putting me and the boys through. Thanks for listening I needed to vent a little.
C

I went back and read your original story. I know the pain you're talking about. My husband left our house about a month ago, and I just found out last week he as a girl "friend" that he has been talking to at all times of the day, everyday (cell records)
I also know he has been over to her house for "beers". The hurt is so bad. I know what you mean, my kids see me cry nearly every day. I try to be strong too, but the physical pain that I am going through is unbearable sometimes. It comes in waves, like when I see his car, or he texts me.
When does it get better? I do a lot of the "why" too. It is so unfair.
Hang in there, at least we know we are not alone. Email me anytime.
R
To both of you whose h's betrayed you -
It gets better as it gets farther into the past. It's like a wound, and it will heal. And you will be stronger when it's healed and you have created a happier, better, smarter life. I know it's hard to believe, but it's true.
Why? Who knows? It's not your faults. These are guys who didn't really commit to you, and most surely haven't committed to their new "friends" any more than they did you. They are self-centered jerks. It's just hard to come to the realization that the person you knew and trusted with your life is not at all who you thought he was. Be strong, believe in yourselves.
Look at your blessings, your kids, your extended family. Pick up a new hobby. Keep reading these postings and realize that you're not alone, and that you may be able to help others through situations similar to yours. One of my recently divorced friends told me to "Move a muscle, change a thought." and it's true. I took up making jewelry, its fairly inexpensive, relaxing and you can sell it!
My thoughts and prayers are with you both.