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| Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:30am |
DS(12) is on probation for one year (among other things) for the vandalism he and his friend committed in April. He must obey my husband (his stepfather) and me-within reason. He is not to fight or yell at his sister. There is a whole long list so I won’t go on. If he disobeys the order he can be placed in juvenile detention. Something neither my husband nor I want to happen.
Well, last Thursday he got in a fight with his sister. She started it by punching him in the back, but he continued by yelling at her and threatening to punch her. Then he shoved her-he claims he tripped and fell into her. Things like this have happened many times and we have NOT called the police as we have been told to do by his juvenile probation officer. My husband did not witness any of the events but my daughter told him all about it. Again, we did not turn him in but instead called his father to see if he could spend the weekend there. I took him over Thursday night.
Friday morning my ex calls to say he would like my son to live with him. I told him maybe for a couple of weeks, but nothing permanent. He travels extensively but he told me he would hire a nanny for the times he was away. I took ½ vacation day on Friday, so I stopped by to see my son on my way home. My son came out to the car and told me he didn’t want to live there. After we talked my ex came out. He told me he wanted me to draw up a document to cease child support, he would contact his lawyer, and he wanted the commission portion of the child support payment I just received on Friday. I told him not to rush into anything. My original intention was only for the weekend.
So, I called him around 2:00 yesterday to say I would my pick up my son at 6:00. He told me “no, that is not what we discussed”. WHAT??? I told him he better have him ready or I would call the police in his town to meet me there and I would bring a copy of the divorce decree. I got there a little early but he did come home with me.
Now, I don’t know what expect. He will probably start by calling DCYS. I am just so exhausted from all of the B.S. in my life. All we want is a nice, peaceful, happy family.

Let him call... BUT, I would have a serious sit-down and let your son know that he's running his own show... and if things continue, HIS actions might land HIM in juvenile detention, which could result in him spending time in juvenile jail and possibly being placed in state's custody and foster care, where YOU NOR HIS DAD WILL HAVE ANY SAY-SO IN WHAT HAPPENS TO HIM AND WE ALL KNOW THAT THE STATE IS NOT THE MOST POSH CAREGIVER ON THE PLANET.
Does he know kids who are in foster care?.... perhaps that he can go visit and see what their lifestyle is like???
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~