Why is this so hard?

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Why is this so hard?
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 10:24pm
I'm new to this sight as many of the women that I seem to be reading about. My situation is a combo of depression and separation. What more could a woman ask for?!?! I have been w/ my husband for 5 years, married for 2.5.I filed for divorce last February, 2 days before our 2nd wedding anniversary. I wasn't ready to get married when he proposed. What do say to a man who whisks you to Rockefeller square @ Christmas and bends down on1 knee? Well, if your me, even if your not ready, you say yes. He's always had issues that bothered me. For one, it always seems like there is something or someone else that is more important. We always need to be visiting or out. I'm a homebody, and enjoy living a quiet life. He's a d.j. in his spare time and a teacher by day. He will be 40 next year and I can't or should say don't want to see him d.j. ing house music in some club. It seems so immature. I know that I want more out of a man and a relationship, but I'm so scared. Scared to live on my own again, scared to date, scared that I'm making a mistake by leaving. These feelings are so overwhelming that they literally leave me emotionally paralyzed. I guess I'm here looking for words of encouragement. I know that this isn't right, if it was I wouldn't of filed. I just need some woman that have been here, living on separate sides of the house like roommates, to tell me I am right and there will be someone out there for me. Someone more responsible, someone that makes me feel like I am #1, someone that wants to start my dream, a family. Please, please tell me it's possible!!!!
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Registered: 10-22-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 11:47pm

I don't know how much of an encouragement I can be for you, but I'll try.

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 10:35pm
You are not a weenie.You are human! I would of done the same thing, but probably chose the tampon aisle, as to not to see a man. Never the t.v. area!!! Thanks for the words of encouragement, they really helped.