Will this ever end?

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Will this ever end?
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Thu, 10-27-2005 - 9:19pm

I got an email from my ex asking about how I had the money to buy a "Bowflex". First of all it's none of his business and second of all I did NOT buy a bowflex, a friend of mine got a weight bench at a yard sale and asked if I wanted it!! Evidently my 8-year-old told "Daddy" that "Mummy" got a Bowflex. I told him that I didn't appreciate him taking an active interest in what I'm spending my money and and I think that his GF would not like it if she knew he was doing that.

Then he started in about my job schedule and how he "doesn't want to hear about all the extra time" I have them and how my work schedule rules his world. RIGHT! three days a week. HE's such a jerk.

I told him today that I would no longer take the kids on Friday nights on his weekends and that if he sees a problem with the childcare arrangements then he needs to file papers with the court. I've had enough of the harrassing talk and it's time to either put up or shut up.

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Fri, 10-28-2005 - 3:55pm

I know what you mean..my soon to be Ex bought a van after the divorce was filed and then has the gall to acuse me of selling things...which was totally untrue on his part...he drives me batty

Steph

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 5:19pm

Before my sbtx and I split I started hunting

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Fri, 10-28-2005 - 7:53pm

It's nuts!!!! I mean why does he care if I had bought a Bowflex??? It's not like he pays child support and I spend his child support checks on something like that. He did that last summer too when I rented a vacation house for a week for me and the kids. I mean HE filed the divorce papers what the heck does he care??? Right now I can barely afford my household bills let alone expensive exercise equipment.

He needs to let go of the past and stop trying to get even with me. He has his freedom, a girlfriend with money and hardly any parenting responsibilities. What more could a man ask for?? Seems like if I finally get any ounce of joy in my life he's right there to try and stomp on it.

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 10:44pm
oh my gosh..its like the words right out of my mind...
I even told my stbx that he has everything he ever wanted..the 25 yr old gf.(he is 36)..no responsibilities...4 vacations a yr (so far) and a brand new $50,000 truck
(he owns his own business so its a business expense doncha know)..and 3 beautiful children he has almost nothing to do with but can show them off when he wants..
but he is still so hateful to me..
tonight my kids called from his place said they saw a picture of daddy kissing his gf..(they have been dating 6mos & we have been apart 8mos)..one of the kids told me not to cry..I mean at this point was that really necessary to show the kids that???really..
they are meeting the gf tomorrow & I spent all of last night telling my 8 yr old how this is a good thing ...
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 11:10pm

Next time i would say "you spend your $ on what YOU want, I will spend MY $ on what I want".

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Sat, 10-29-2005 - 5:49pm
Well he's never wanted me to look good and made fun of my workout tapes and my running schedule. My workouts are the only thing keeping me sane right now. LOL. I'm in a downward spiral of complete burnout right now. Vacation can't come soon enough!!
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Registered: 10-31-2005
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 10:46am
You two remind me of my situation! My ex but not ex yet does not talk to me... he actually tells people that he hate me. It has been 1 year and 4 months and actually 4 months since he has seen our son. He has an older gf she is 46 and he is 36... but she once tried to be my friend so you know I don't want my son around her. She doesn't like me and only had decietful intent so if you don't like me how could you like my child? He pays no child support and his family continues to talk to me call me, want me to come over but when do I just say NO? I never talk bad about my ex to our son... even when our son tells me "mommie want me to help you find a boyfriend"? I laugh and say no... I need to find myself then we can get you a male figure to play with you... I am sure this hurt, heartache and feeling that I have been totally betrayed will fade FAST!!!