will he EVER be served ...
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| Sat, 08-19-2006 - 12:08am |
i'm swimming in hopelessness. i've tried to be positive for the sake of DSs, especially given it's their first week of middle school, but i feel so emotionally frustrated and exhausted. STBX has been "cleverly" avoiding being served d-papers, when HE was the one who told ME i had to file the divorce before he would pay ANY child support. now, it seems, he has the whole city watching his back and assisting him with avoiding the server, which is going to affect our upcoming court date, which probably will have to be pushed back.
he knows soooo many people through his business and just on his own, folks in the sheriff's department who are also probably looking out for him. it's seems like a no win battle. while he's off continuing to earn $10K+ a month, flying his skank GF in and out of town every weekend, being happy, in love, spending lavish amounts of money on her and himself, going on trips out of town together, riding around in luxury vehicles, owns property, etc., his sons continue to suffer & i'm running out of money since i was laid off of my $90K a year job earlier this month. and when i told him i was losing my job and needed his help with preparing the boys for school to the tune of $1,000, which included uniforms, school supplies, shoes, etc., he replied, "you have custody, so you have to figure it out; i prefer to stay out of that. until you file for the divorce and until the courts make me pay, i'm not paying anything; i don't want to deal with you." --no empathy, no concern for preparing his children for school, nothing. just a souless, cowardly jerk who won't even take care of his own MOTHER, who keeps calling me asking ME for money, helloooo, i've been laid off and your idiot of a son won't even take care of his own DSs, just plain trifling!!
i absolutely cannot continue supporting the boys financially allll on my own, without a job, it's just unbelievable how STBX gets to get off scott free and live his life so happily and seamlessly, while we suffer so desperately!
i filed mid last month, and still no papers served because STBX has been avoiding. sometimes i really consider just "giving in" and taking the boys to him and letting him raise them, seems i absolutely cannot get a break! i just can't wait until allll of this is over so i can stop crying every night out of frustration & the dreadful fear of not being able to support my sons coupled with the fact that their father refuses to support them, period. how can ANY woman find that attractive in a man or allow that, i just cannot believe someone is actually with him and condones his cruel behavior---grrrr!!
i absolutely cannot sleep because i'm so angry and continue to lose weight because of this unbearable stress of it all; why oh why did i ever marry this monster!!

HUGS! How long have you been trying to have him served? I can not IMAGINE how upsetting it is that he keeps dodging the papers. Have you been able to speak to the person serving him the papers? I know in CT, the marshal was just able to leave the divorce papers in his door, and state he was served. He never actually had to hand him the papers. But I know each state is different.
Even if he skips skipping out on getting served, ask your attorney if you can get a court date for temporary child support orders because you're struggling. Even if he doesn't show, I believe they can begin wage garnishment.
This is an awful situation, and I am sorry that you're in it.