Will the pain EVER go away?

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Registered: 05-02-2007
Will the pain EVER go away?
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Fri, 09-14-2007 - 9:13pm

Okay, the divorce was final 7/27.

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Fri, 09-14-2007 - 10:21pm

Hey Jenn,

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 05-06-2003
Sat, 09-15-2007 - 3:07pm
Block her email address!
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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 11:13am

Well, if youe EX attempts to "make" your daughter visit, I'd be saving copies of the emials from the new woman to "prove" that they kids can see EX..... but not her!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-23-2007
Sun, 09-23-2007 - 8:13pm
Just do what is best for you and your kids!
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Registered: 10-25-2006
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 10:12am

JJW,


Unfortunately real life isn't like a sitcom. We can't have everything being tied up in 60 minutes or less with everyone smiling.


For what it's worth, I think your husband's GF and "former family friend" has really shown her lack of character by her "joy" over the kids disliking her. That means she only in it for herself and the moment. Chances are she'll dump you EX for the next "exciting" thing that comes along. Bet on it!


Second, your children may be old enough to decide (legally) whether or not they want to visit. Ask your attorney. If they choose not to visit their father with the GF then he might have to concede to supervised visits by himself. But, check, to see if you have a legal leg to stand on.


Finally, you've experienced a great loss. You have to grieve. That takes time...so don't hurry it, skip it, or try to avoid it. You'll be in pain for a while..how long is totally personal. Get into a support group if you can find one and/or see a counselor.


Good luck and keep us posted,


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