Will police report help with custody?
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Will police report help with custody?
| Mon, 07-16-2007 - 9:18am |
Hello. I'm in the beginning of divorce. Husband and I have been seperated since January 1st. Of course, a long story I'll try to make short... he came home one day (oct 30th), told me he slept with my sister and another women over the past 7 years. Of course, I felt gross ... and he left January 1st. Then came back, cause we were going to try a trial joint custody where he and I left the house and not our kids. Down the road he changed the locks and I was on my own. Now he picks what days he wants our kids and if I don't go along with it, I get letters from his lawyer or phone calls telling me not to make this harder and not to keep access from him. In all this time, only a few times did I say no, because we had plans (that he knew about ... such as camping). And I know of 1 time that I was mad, cause he fails to help out financially. As far as money goes, he's contributed about $390.00 from Jan 1st to now (july 16th). My kids are with me everyday because he works 5 days a week, then goes to b-ball and softball several times a week. They do sleep over night at his house a couple times a week. He's trying for joint custody, and I of course and going for full custody. I have my kids every day ... I had to drive them to and from school everyday (before summer), not to mention I've been the main caregiver for the last 9 years (my oldest is 9), I've been a stay at home mom. He says I can't get a job and I'm unreliable which is why it should be joint custody. Only reason I didn't keep a job in the past is because I stayed home with my kids and he was ok and happy with this until we went our own ways. Anway, on to the police report. My relationship with my husband was abusive for 7 of the 10 years we were together (married 8). Back in 1998 I called the police when he hit me and grabbed a knife stating he was going to hurt himself. The report says I had bruising and that he hit me and I fell to the ground. This report is from a long time ago ... and he's been making threats that he told his lawyer I'm unfit ... and will be proving it to the judge so I can't have my kids (not sure now if he's going for joint or full). This back and forth to houses thing my kids are going through is more and more difficult each day. He changes his days often, asks then tells me when he's taking them. For some reason (not complaining) he gave me the last 3 weekends ... keeps telling me it's my weekend and the last one was his even tho I had them ... not sure why. Anyways, any help or opinions would be great. Thanks!!!

Get your own lawyer PRONTO! File for dissertion. He left you and withheld all financial support from you and the kids. If the kids are with you, but he locked you out--where are you and the kids living?
You must get your own legal representation so you can draw a line in the sand and set up a temporary custody, visitation and support schedule in writing (through the courts?).
Married that long and with three(?) kids and a sahm you should get spousal and child support and NOW!
You can't get it retroactively so file asap.
So, get a lawyer and stop getting jerked around.
As for the old report ... can't tell you what impact that will have. Maybe someone else can. I wouldn't look to the past to support your position. Look to the now -- he has disserted you and the kids, effectively and you and the kids have a right to support and a predicatable visitation schedule that can be ENFORCED by the court.
GL!!
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