Wish me luck, I'm off to a wedding soon

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Wish me luck, I'm off to a wedding soon
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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 2:35pm

Its the first wedding I've been to since my divorce and I'm really happy for my friend who is getting married... there is just something somewhere in the back of my mind that is making me a touch unsettled... I can't quite put my finger on it, but its there...

Julie

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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 2:40pm

Have a great time! Maybe see it as your first opportunity to go to a wedding single and have the choice to stay as long or as short as you like, drink what you like, and talk with whomever you want for as long you want without your husband nagging you leave or making you stay longer than you wanted to.

Dance with at least one good looking single guy while you're there! :-P

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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 6:41pm

Yeah... cause everyone's reminissing about how wonderful marriage is (and you know what it can turn into).


I hope that you had a good time.


hugs!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 9:11pm

Thank you Gwen & Karen...

It went better than I thought it was. It started out as a really damp, cool morning here with a stiff October breeze, but by the time of the outdoor ceremony, it had turned into quite the lovely day.

The groom used to live two doors down from here with his then girlfriend. He and I shared many a bottle of wine soon after my divorce--he was very supportive. Then he and his girlfriend broke up and I helped him through that, even helped him pack up his stuff. He met this wonderful girl at a dog obedience class... don't know how much the dogs got out of it, but they found each other. I got a call from him soon after the first class about how he had met the one... whom I got to meet for the first time today. She is wonderful and we have plans to get together with Joey when they get back from their honeymoon.

I'm really glad I went, but I have to admit that I didn't stick around for the dancing. They danced one dance when they first got to the reception that we later found out wasn't their first dance. We were there through the dining, the toasts and the cake... there were times when I just felt out of place. I'm a bit on the introverted side of things, especially around those I don't know. The bride is from this area and so the majority of people there were her friends and family. So, some of it was sitting at a table with friends of the bride, who weren't really talking... that felt uncomfortable for me. As for cute guys, well, I saw one or two but none without a ring... but it didn't matter anyway as I didn't stay long enough to dance...

Thanks again for the good thoughts...

Julie

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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 11:51pm

Hugs.... it was good to hear from you :-)


As I said... I totally wasted my day today... but hopefully that will make the week get off to a good start.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 10:07am

I hope you had a fantastic time!

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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 12:37pm

Be careful what you wish for, you might get it! LOL. Why are you so upset, exactly? Both of my sons were involved in band since elementary school, Marching Band is a huge commitment. In AZ, swimming is a Fall sport so it was always a juggling act for my boys and the band director is a total Nazi about the commitment (probably why they're in the Macy's parade this year). This is a huge band 200+. I told the band director, when my S18 tried out for his placement in 8th grade that he was a swimmer and would have conflicts. Specifically, a big band competition always falls the same day as either regional swim finals or state swim finals. So what does she do? gives him a timpani solo that is key to the performance. I and S18 run ourselves ragged trying to meet his obligations to both swim team and band. The director then proceeds to target S18 as one of the kids she picks on. He put up with this til the end of marching season his junior year. then he told me he was quitting and he did. S15 just didn't try out for marching band for his sophomore year, he's doing jazz instead. So a laid back director would have been my dream come true.

To continue totally off topic, this past weekend was swim regionals, our team once again won and S18 was 2nd in one event, 5th in his other event, qualified for state championships once again. They will have serious competition for state (they've won the championship 6 years in a row!) and they have a new coach, so the kids are all fired up. S18 has not been having a good year, times are a bit off for him, so I hope he pulls it together for next week, being a senior, co-captain and all.

The interest in band or sports really has to come from the kid. My kids do it as much for the social aspect as for anything else. The social aspect kept S18 in band far longer than was healthy for him. But I had to let him decide when he'd had enough.

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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 12:39pm
julie - you know, i think sometimes when i got to a wedding, i feel sort of weird. it's a cross between being cynical, and maybe TOO realistic (i think: what kind of chance does this couple have to succeed at their marriage? the odds are just against it), i think of beauty and extravagance of the reception - and then this same couple is going to struggle to pay their bills, and fight about money... i don't know....that's how i feel. something about how all weddings start out 'good' and some (many) end up bad...
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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 1:03pm

This director is so laid back that the kids are literally screaming for more discipline.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 9:29pm

SK, I think you really hit the nail on the head... it highlights all of the good and I've been too close to some of the bad to not see it... Not that I necessarily think that about the bride and groom... I'm so happy for them it isn't funny, but things can happen and things can change. I just hope that theirs is as happy as it is now, fifty years from now...

Julie