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| Sat, 07-23-2005 - 9:55pm |
My ex moved out over 2 years ago, 2 years and 7 months to be exact. He filed the papers about 8 months later, then never followed up so had to refile them. Well i have moved on, i moved out of state, with a great guy that I know in my heart is the one that was ment for me.
But my issue is with my ex, we have only so much time before they throw the second papers out. He was the one that wanted this all, and now it seems like he is stalling for no reason, i haven't seen his fase in over a year, i have only contacted him thru email and only when it was about the divorse. We have no assets to split, my current boyfriend put my car in his name because he just has this feeling that jason is going to ask for it.
But now he is holding up the mediation, i have driven from new york back to michigan 2 times for mediation meetings, both times he didn't show up. The mediator started to feel sorry for me and has told me if he gets my ex in he will do my part over the phone. I told my ex i would pay for his share of the mediation and all court fees. he has used every excuse in the book, can anyone give there input about what is in this guys head?
I will give the list of excuses he has given the mediator
1. He works from 9 to 9 every day. (BS i know he works weekends so he gets atleast one week day off, and the mediator even offered to have the meeting at 7 am so he could make it)
2. He has no transportation. (fine his car broke down, but we don't live in the middle of no where, he can get a cab, and all of his family live in the same city as he does. Also i want to point out that i was able to drive from NY to MI 2 times for 1 2 hour meeting, and he can't get a ride from a lawyers office that is 10 min away from where he lives?)
3. He has no money (when he said this i sent him an email saying i would pay his part and all court fees (around 300 dollars i am not rich but if that is all i need to pay to get this over with fine i will do it!).
How much more cooperative can i be? I don't want to go to court because that is where things can get expensive, and we don't have kids, we don't have any shared money or property, so we just have to go to mediation then see a judge for 10 min and we are divorsed, why is this last step so hard for him!!!!!!!!!!!!!
okay sorry about all the venting just no one close to me understands, and I don't want my boyfriend to see this mean bitchy side of me .....thanks all any advise or ideas why this guy is being an ass would be greatly appreciated.


Sorry about the dumb questions. Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
You talk about a court battle. What do you have to battle over? I think you said there wasn't much. Is there anyway the court can force him to go to mediation? There has to be away around this. I wish I knew the answer for you. Good Luck!
Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Yeah we have not one thing to fight over, we have no kids, no property and i gave him my car, and bought a new one.
The irony of it all is that i didn't want this divorse, but i have to say 2 and half years later i have never been happier, i have my life together got my nursing degree, and a great boyfriend.
I just wish i knew why he was now holding everything up and making stupid excuses.
Hi...
I just read your post that mediation is required in the state of MI, but it does seem like your stbx is just dragging this out... could you talk to your attorney and see if there are any other ways? If you don't have one, what about calling a Legal Aid office in MI? At this point, even if the divorce would cost you more without mediation, I would think that it would be worth it, just to get this part of your life over so you can continue living your life...
Good Luck!
Julie