Would anyone dare...

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Registered: 03-14-2005
Would anyone dare...
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Tue, 07-15-2008 - 8:33pm

get married 3x's?


I've only been married once, but my I might as well have been married to my first son's father. I did officially get married after him, but my marriage has been pretty rocky from the get go. We have been separated for over a yr now. He's lagging concerning filing for the official divorce, however he's not working towards us & making our marriage work either.


I've grown & reflected alot concerning my decision making skills and men, but couldn't imagine another "failed" relationship or marriage. I know I won't be "single" for the rest of my life, but I'm just not sure if marriage is for me - maybe I just happened to marry the wrong person - or not be the right person when I chose to get married - but I'm just not sure anymore concerning "marriage".


Hmmmm.... ;)

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 12:05pm

Hey


Im in a similar situation so thought i'd reply back.


Married less than 2 years to my daughter's dad.. (actually only stayed with him 11 months i shoulda had the darn thing annulled) We had been together 8 yrs and he cheated and cheated..i actually shoulda never married him at all... anyway i left.


Took 8 years to find husband number two. I thought i was so much more wise and careful. Thought he was amazing and the one.

 

"I've learned
that it is the weak who are cruel,
and that gentleness is to be expected
only from the strong."

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 12:11pm

I think about it also since I'm going through my 2nd div.

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Registered: 07-16-2007
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 12:18pm
I know someone on his third marriage. He's pretty happy now - though he is in involved in a FWB on the side, so maybe not. Who knows. I do know he won't leave that marriage without something significant coming up. He doesn't want to be a three time mistake maker.

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 12:25pm

My XH just got married for the third time. We separated in fall 2001, he remarried in summer 2003, divorced in fall 2007, and just remarried this past weekend. As a wise friend said to me, he really likes being married, he's just not very good at it.

I feel sorry for NW#3 and her daughters, but mostly for MY daughters. Must be hard to have serial step-mothers.

IMO, I wouldn't assume that marriage isn't for you..... you just chose poorly. Why? Who knows. Too young? Unsure of what you wanted in a relationship? Snowed by the man you were with? All of the above???

I think if my XH dated #2 or #3 for more than 12 months, things might have been different for him.....

~calla~

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 1:44pm
He's already headed for div. #3 if he's got someone on the side, don't you think?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 8:26pm

I'm on my second divorce and I've had this thought often......"will I ever marry again?"

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 10:59pm
I have lost count but I think my Mom has gotten divorced 6 times and is on her 7th.

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