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| Tue, 07-15-2008 - 8:33pm |
get married 3x's?
I've only been married once, but my I might as well have been married to my first son's father. I did officially get married after him, but my marriage has been pretty rocky from the get go. We have been separated for over a yr now. He's lagging concerning filing for the official divorce, however he's not working towards us & making our marriage work either.
I've grown & reflected alot concerning my decision making skills and men, but couldn't imagine another "failed" relationship or marriage. I know I won't be "single" for the rest of my life, but I'm just not sure if marriage is for me - maybe I just happened to marry the wrong person - or not be the right person when I chose to get married - but I'm just not sure anymore concerning "marriage".
Hmmmm.... ;)

Hey
Im in a similar situation so thought i'd reply back.
Married less than 2 years to my daughter's dad.. (actually only stayed with him 11 months i shoulda had the darn thing annulled) We had been together 8 yrs and he cheated and cheated..i actually shoulda never married him at all... anyway i left.
Took 8 years to find husband number two. I thought i was so much more wise and careful. Thought he was amazing and the one.
"I've learned
that it is the weak who are cruel,
and that gentleness is to be expected
only from the strong."
I think about it also since I'm going through my 2nd div.
My XH just got married for the third time. We separated in fall 2001, he remarried in summer 2003, divorced in fall 2007, and just remarried this past weekend. As a wise friend said to me, he really likes being married, he's just not very good at it.
I feel sorry for NW#3 and her daughters, but mostly for MY daughters. Must be hard to have serial step-mothers.
IMO, I wouldn't assume that marriage isn't for you..... you just chose poorly. Why? Who knows. Too young? Unsure of what you wanted in a relationship? Snowed by the man you were with? All of the above???
I think if my XH dated #2 or #3 for more than 12 months, things might have been different for him.....
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
I'm on my second divorce and I've had this thought often......"will I ever marry again?"