Would you do this

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Would you do this
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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 12:39pm

This is a follow up from my first post.

With my ex saying I can "keep" our son, he has his girls and will make another baby - would any of you send him pictures from time to time to show him how the baby is progressing. Or would you just leave it alone and say well it's his loss. And let him make the move of contacting us or not.

Please give advice

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 8:10pm

I think this is a big IF but IF he doesn't want to see the baby then no I wouldn't. But HOW could he do that?


My ex disappeared for months at a time when all of this started. He told me the same things and then poof, he was gone. He is now, an every other weekend father and has been since I can remember. It took us 2 years to get to this point and occassionally he messes up but all is good now.


Try not to think of it as permanent. It is just him throwing a fit because you stood your ground.


Hugs sweetie, remember just live everyday for itself one day at a time.


Angelena

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 8:46am

I would be upset about it, but it's always good to do the right thing.

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 11:21am
If he's talking that way, as if your son were a piece of furniture, I'd get that offer in writing with as little fuss as possible. A child does not need a parent who considers him disposable. And send him pictures? Not unless he asks, and then I'd wonder why.


Edited 7/16/2005 11:24 am ET ET by gonnabefine