Wow

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Registered: 03-06-2005
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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 9:52pm

Well ladies.....


You all know that my mother and I don't get along.... the reason we don't get along right now is because she chose OW over me. Yes, a slap in the face.


Well, today I found out from my grandmother that my mom is in the hospital. My mom has terminal cancer. I find out what hospital she is in and I make plans to go see her tomorrow only to find out that instead of calling me to take her to the ER, she called OW.


Again, slapping me in the face.


So, tell me how this is normal:? OW is trying to be me. She took my husband, trying to replace me with my kids and now is pretending to be a daughter to my mother. Oh and for those who know the story know that OW likes to post things on her website to

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_butterfly71676
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 7:28pm

"I find out what hospital she is in and I make plans to go see her tomorrow only to find out that instead of calling me to take her to the ER, she called OW."

You were planning to go see her. So I really think you should still go. Although maybe that's just me, I am only thinking of how I would do things, and I know everybody's different. I have a little dysfunction in my family, too, and it can be hard sometimes to do the things that I really think are the best. It's hard, but you've gotta just hold your head up and do them.

Again, it's just me, but if there was a 9 foot rattlesnake in my mom's hospital room, that wouldn't stop me from going in to see her. No one knows how much time any of us has. If your situation is different and you don't go, perhaps you would like to just call the hospital gift shop and have them send some nice little thing up to your mom.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
In reply to: cl_butterfly71676
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 7:58pm

HI guys,


I thought I would update you on this situation.


I did not go see my mother. My grandmother called me and told me that it was "pretty bad" and that I shouldn't upset her. Actually she begged me not to. My first instinct was to run right to the hospital. I called and found out where she was and what room. Then I found out OW was there. I also thought about it and realized that Mom went into the hospital after her and I had words. Something that has happened MANY times before. She does it for sympathy. It works. BUT, this time, I knew she had someone there and because my grandmother didn't know what was wrong with my mom, I knew that there was nothing to be worried about. I also realized that mom doesn't want me there. If she did, she would have called. I guarantee it. I didn't want to upset her, I didn't want to go where I wasn't wanted thus creating an even worse situation.


I emailed and called my XH's house a zillion times this weekend to find out what happened only to NOT receive a phone call or an email back from him. That also made me realize she just does NOT want me around.


I found out today that she is home. That confirms my belief that she is ok and probably didn't need to be there.


As cold as it sounds, I thought it would be better to go with my instinct on this one and this time it was right. I know that my family would have told me details if it was THAT bad regardless of their feelings for me.


I just know when to call it even and accept that she doesnt want me around.


Thanks for your response :)


Hugs,


Angelena

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