WTH do I DO?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-02-2008
WTH do I DO?
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Sat, 04-26-2008 - 12:49am

This morning, my exHub sent me this email:


"I would like to address an issue that has been weighing on my mind. I believe that the kids need a

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2006
In reply to: minako4
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 8:11am

Mina,


What are the terms of your child custody/visitation as spelled out in the divorce decree? Read it.


What your Ex can't do is just shove the kids off on you without paying child support - or paying more child support. Contact the Friend of the Court and explain the situation. Then, contact Legal Aid and find out if you can get some legal advice on how to proceed.


Your EX sounds like he's making an excuse to NOT have his children around all the time. I'd bet his GF has a lot to do with that. Maybe it's her or maybe it's him, but someone no longer wants full-time responsibility for his children. And, if he's "taking revenge" on you for going to school to better yourself (and ultimately your children), then's he's an idiot.


You need legal advice. Get some very soon.


CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 03-30-2008
In reply to: minako4
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 8:47am

Wow! That was my first reaction. Besides thinking him a jerk, and that the GF has a lot to do with this,

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2001
In reply to: minako4
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 1:54pm

There is a lot of help out there for people in your position.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-02-2008
In reply to: minako4
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 2:20pm

Well, the way the situation was was that we had "Joint Managing Conservatorship" whatever that means...and he has physical custody.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2006
In reply to: minako4
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 3:12pm

Minako,


You don't know what you're eligible for or not eligible for unless you go find out. So, don't close all the doors to yourself by assuming you can't get help. The only way you'll know is go ask.

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: minako4
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 3:37pm

You need to go to court ASAP to have it in writing that he has given up phys custody of the kids and so you can now get child support from him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-02-2008
In reply to: minako4
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 8:05pm

Well, he took them back.


This afternoon he sends me a text saying he wants them back.