WTH IS HE THINKING????!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 06-17-2004
WTH IS HE THINKING????!!!!!!!!
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Fri, 11-04-2005 - 8:52am

How on EARTH did I end up marrying such a cold-hearted, selfish individual??!!!! I cannot believe this!!! I spoke to STBX yesterday regarding the kids. Since just after we separated he's been talking about moving in the spring. He keeps asking if I'm going to stay in this town or not. Honestly, I don't really like it here mainly because it's a tourist area and can be a bit expensive. Also, I just don't like the cold and there's not much to do other than the touristy stuff. However, the boys have a wonderful school with great teachers that I've known for years. They have an awsome pediatritian. They also have a wonderful child psychologist that is helping them get through all of this so well. Also, my parents and brother

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 11-04-2005 - 9:08am

He's just trying to make you feel guilty so that he doesn't have to "own" the guilt.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Fri, 11-04-2005 - 3:08pm
I can't believe he's moving that far away!!!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 11-04-2005 - 9:26pm

Helllooo? remember "Antigua?" Well, guess where MY stbx is. 1 mile away - still.


I KNOW how it feels for everyone to say "let him go, it will be better for the kids" - etc. B/c everyone said it to me, & it HURT - albeit unintentionally from them. B/c i truly felt (& still do) that my dd NEEDS her father in her life. That she is & had been so close to him, that short of direct abuse to her, it is better off she sees him. BUT ... your H really isnt making efforts AT ALL to stay in their life. he is already involved with someone .... mine at least, in 10 months, isnt. I dont know. I am not comparing. It just SEEMS to me that your boys H is not the father you think or want him to be (& i am NOT saying Avereys is father of the year, belive me).


I say "ignore it". The likliehood he leaves next spring ... or that they are even TOGETHER by then, is what? nill?

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