WWYD?

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Registered: 09-30-2004
WWYD?
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Sun, 08-14-2005 - 11:48am

Ex-H takes your son on a trip out of town for almost 2 weeks. You call to talk to son, and Ex-H prevents you from talking to your child. Ex-H is upset at you because of a support order. Ex-H tells you to stop calling or he will block all calls.

What can you do? What should you do?

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Registered: 04-18-2003
In reply to: oldtimeposter
Sun, 08-14-2005 - 12:02pm

I just recently had my child gone for 2 wks (acutally it will be over tomorrow at 5p.m.) of her being gone since the first time shince I had her (5yr).

I miss her so much but my X is a jerk and I didn't want to give fuel to the fire if she was to be having a good time and then get off the phone with me and then say "I want to go home." Then he would say she was doing just fine before you called. Or either way I am damned because then he can say she was gone for the 1st time from you and you never called her. So I just haven't called - I have cried intermittently here and there. But some of these other great posters on here have told me that I have every right to talk to my child. I just chose not to call becaue of the above mentioned.

I don't know if "uninterrupted" means no phone calls. But I figure she will be home tomorrow and I can tell her how much I missed her.

Good luck - when does your child come back.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2003
In reply to: oldtimeposter
Sun, 08-14-2005 - 2:25pm

Unless your ex has an order forbidding you to contact him, or the custody order spells out no contact with the child during visitation, you have the right to contact with your child. If he refuses to allow it another time or two, you would be justified in taking him to court to tighten down the phrasing of your order. It may be best to simply inform him that you know your rights and will take this before the judge. Document it. If you have an attorney, a letter from the atty. may be enough to straighten him out.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Best of luck.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: oldtimeposter
Sun, 08-14-2005 - 3:37pm
My divorce papers say,"The children shall be encouraged to have contact with both parents and shall be allowed frequent time with each parent. This includes not only physical contact, but also correspondence, telelphone conversations, e-mail, and other means of interaction, all of which shall be actively promoted by both parents." This is how I get to talk to my boys. I use it fully. I also encourage the boys to call their father. Ex doesn't use it ( I wish he would). I don't know how he can go an entire week without speaking to his children. One day and I am crazy. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-06-2005
In reply to: oldtimeposter
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 11:12am

I would send a certified letter gently reminding him of the divorce specifics and reminding him also that if he does not cooperate he can be taken back to court.


That is just terrible.



I have the same problem. I don't have a cell phone number for my X and they conveniently don't answer the phone when I call. EVERY time.


Hugs and good luck,


Angelena






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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: oldtimeposter
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 12:06pm
My visitation order SAYS we cannot keep child from talking to the OP on the phone, while on visits. I would see if i could get an ammendement to yours.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: oldtimeposter
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 10:24pm

He needs to be reminded of The Child's Bill Of Rights .


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