X comment to dd, & tax issue ... (m)

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X comment to dd, & tax issue ... (m)
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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 9:54am

He is SUCH a loser. Like we didnt know that already!


Last nite, of course after the hangdog look in court .... he is on the phone with dd arranging an overnite for tonite & she gets off the phone & says "Daddy says to be nice to him".

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 10:02am

Hummm.... I think that I would wait to file taxes until you are sure that he already filed.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 12:19pm

YOure right - i just shot my atty an email to be sure. I swear it said it in the temp orders, but maybe i am mistaken & thats why he told me to go ahead & do it. Good point though!


& thanks about the Averey comment. Thats what i try to do. Remind her of the reality of what she sees & hears ... WHO is the "mean" one, w/o actually saying "Your dad is mean". Poor kid.

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 1:31pm
I agree with Karen that you should get some sort of written documentation that your ex doesn't want to file jointly . Then just call it good.
You are such a good Mom. I hope I can be the same some day. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 5:16pm

Good for you for restraining yourself on the 'as far away from YOU' comment! I would have had a tough time with that one! It's so sad that he's punishing DD while attempting to hurt you. Well, it's pathetic, really! Is he at all aware of how his comments and actions are affecting DD?? I know with STBX if I tell him something has really hurt the boys he says that I'm exaggerating or lying. So, the last time it happened I grabbed my MP3 player and recorded what Spencer was saying. The next time I saw him I asked him to listen to it, and he did just to shut me up. Welll, when he heard what Spencer was saying and how he was sobbing he got this very sad look on his face and tears in his eyes. So, at least listening to it had some sort of effect on him. Since then, he's ditched The Skank and finally gotten moved into a nice apt (bottom part of a home in a nice neighborhood) and is seeing them much more often. We were talking quite a bit, untill last week, but that's another post. Anyhow, we're almost friendly with each other now, although he's made it clear to ME that he DOES NOT want to get back together. I of course am thrilled about that one! LOL. He's still working on some 'things', or at least attempting to. He's very conflicted after all of this. In his heart he wants to do what's right, but the temptation to do the wrong things is overpowering that at times.....ugh.....


No 26-year-old man should have the word 'Kegger' in his vocabulary.....


I'm happy for you that they aren't fighting it. My atty has an offer ready, she's just changing a few things. If he agrees then I waive legal fees. That should be enough to get him to agree to it.


Well, gotta run!!!!

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 5:28pm

Ugh, what can I say, you know he's a loser and a jerk, I'd just be redundant. Just keep telling yourself, "It'll all be over soon."

On a completely different note, the other day I was at work and there was a little girl who looked EXACTLY like Averey! I kept looking at her trying to figure out who's kid she looked like and I realized she looks like YOUR kid! LOL! She has a twin running around the nothern suburbs of Chicago!

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 5:28pm

Well, the best empowerment that you can give her, in her world that sometimes seems like it's out of control (and we can all, even in the best of situations feel like that!), is to reinforce to her that she is a smart cookie that that first, she needs to always think about what she knows to be true before she ever believes what anyone else says or does ;-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 6:36am
Oh Brenda, thanks so much!
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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 6:39am
I dont know if he is aware. But i cnat imagine having 1/2 a brain & NOT realizing it. I think he is just so so SO selfish & chidish ... HIS need to get out his anger WAY outweighs the damage to his child, in his mind.

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 6:40am

The thing that sucks is it really WONT be over totally - since i have to ATTEMPT to co-parent with him for at least 13 more years. UGH!


& thats so cool about Ave's twin! lol

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 6:42am

lol - i thought you were gonna tell me the repair guy was hot!!! eh, maybe next time!

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