X filed contempt charges - the LIAR!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
X filed contempt charges - the LIAR!
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 9:13am
I am in total disbelief. He wants to play dirty? I will play right back at him - & *I* dont NEED to play dirty OR lie like he does, since I have all the evidence on my side. & given the fact that he has been agreeing w/ the court ordered psyc after every visit with him,

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 10:51pm

Won't his agreement with the psych that he shouldn't see dd play into this as well? I would think that that will make a huge difference in the judge's decision, as well.

I guess anyone who doesn't understand your xh's behaviors should look at Brittney Spears, eh?

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 11:35pm

Absolutely. He DID agree every visit (2 alone, & 2

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 11:37pm

Thank you so much. I truly beleive everything happens for a reason - & youre right - now that I HAVE to go to court, as my atty said, then we get everything on the table NOW.


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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 11:42pm

I havent said this to you b4, but over the years I have read many of your posts. You always tell it like it is - whether or NOT its something we want to hear. &, you have life experience that some of us here dont. So, i thank you from the bottom of my heart, for the few times you have given me advice.


Yes, he will look stupid & crazy. Especially if you look at the reply below to AMcannon, he lied about something the psyc said. This guy CANNOT keep his stories strait - & its got to come out, somewhere, sometime.

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 11:44pm

I hope it goes that way for me. The psyc has, as I said, told me he would testify he TOLD me not to allow the visits b/c they were unsafe. Back in Nov, I ? my atty about the legality of that, & he said "Do whatever the psyc says" ... AND, how much of a leg do they have to stand on if X's OWN ATTY spoke to the psyc numerous times over hte past 4 months, & ALSO agreed?


Funny about the with holding visitation for no CS. He hasnt paid in 42 weeks. He hasnt seen dd in 18 weeks. Yet at one point a couple motnhs ago, he screamed at me on the phone "& if you THINK you are going to see ANY child support, youre crazy. I was ADVISED not to pay you since you are withholding visitation".

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 11:52pm

Yes, I can absolutely see why people can make PAS happen, or make it LOOK like its happening anyway. It just makes me sick that ANY parent plays that way

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 11:52pm
Thanks Sweetie - (((hugs))) to you & yoru week!

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 11:53pm
Thanks.

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Sat, 02-16-2008 - 12:01am

In the psycs defense, BOTH attys, were in contact with the psyc AND agreed to stop visitation instead of going for a change in custody right away - HIS atty still agrees as recently as last week. This was all in an attempt to intervene & get X to a healthy state where he COULD parent - & i think we all felt that filing for sole custody would inflame the situation worse for his mental illness.

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Sat, 02-16-2008 - 9:00am

I'm sorry things turned this way for you......and I dont mean to badger things but-you are in contempt. I tried warning you of this way back when the decision was made, by a Psych, to cease visitation. I warned you to "get this to court and get it in writing" to protect YOU and DD.


Cant undo what's been done. One more thing I'm going to warn about, and you being a Nurse knows all about this--HIPPA. You and the Psych speaking about ex's sessions with him is in direct violation of HIPPA. If ex wants to pursue this, he can....and he WILL win. I personally question a Psych who 1. directs a parent to disobey court orders and 2. speaks freely about psychiatric sessions he's had with a person who is not the patient. He is a court ordered Psychiatrist. He should be "neutral" "unbiased". But clearly he's not. Dont get me wrong, I am glad he's trying to protect your daughter-but there are ways he should do that......


As for filing for full custody now--it does look like it's a defense mechanism. It isnt going to look good, at this point in time, by the judge. If your attorney is recommending this, then go for it. But I would question it. It does appear it's being done out of spite-and then if you lose and redo the motion down the road, it's going to cost more money. Full custody is basically what you already have. Even with full custody, he will still be granted visitation and time with your daughter. What exactly will full custody give you?


Hang in there. Get all of your documentation in order. Here, if a parent is found in contempt for keeping the child from the non custodial parent despite court orders, that parent is jailed for a short time.


I KNOW you are doing what you are doing for your daughter. Believe me, I've been through the ringer with my kids and my divorce and my ex. but you have to go about it the right way. The legal way. But i'm willing to bet that your ex is going to attempt to file PAS. It's BS but I will bet he will attempt this. Make sure you have all of your documentation with you. Make sure that Psych is ready to go to court. I would tell this psych when your court date is and tell him you expect him there. Have all the pictures she's drawn, all recordings, etc........


Good luck to you....


Deb

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